Vegas 2015 recap

We had a super relaxing spa day! Lexi Sindel, Alexandra Snow, Meggerz, Momo, Ceara Lynch & me (Mistress T)

We had a super relaxing spa day! Lexi Sindel, Alexandra Snow, Meggerz, Momo, Ceara Lynch & me (Mistress T)

I’ve survived another of our legendary Vegas trips! I had an amazing time, as always.

I cherish the relationships I have with others in this wacky industry. It means so much to have peers to discuss the unique issues that come with this business. I’m sure it’s the same for anyone, whether you’re a lawyer, work in the medical field, a teacher, a mechanic, a bar tender, a CFO, a coder, etc.  There are things about your work that only those who do the same work understand. For me living in Vancouver I’m often fairly isolated from others who understand my work. My friends are very supportive, but it’s different hanging out with those who walk the walk & talk the talk.

So these Vegas trips are great opportunities to network, meet new friends and build on the relationships I already have. Sure, we party a bit, but we also share meals & talk, go to the spa & talk, hang out & talk. It’s fun AND it feeds my soul.

Goofing around in our shared hotel room...Meggerz & I.

Goofing around in our shared hotel room…Meggerz & I.

 

Myself with Meggerz & Lexi Sindel.

Myself with Meggerz & Lexi Sindel.

Myself, Momo & Lexi Sindel.

Myself, Momo & Lexi Sindel.

Here’s a shout out to both Kinkbomb & Clips4Sale who hosted amazing dinners & events. These events bring the community closer & it’s very much appreciated.

We has some crazy nights too...Alexandra Snow, Shauna Ryanne, Jasmine Mendez, Ceara Lynch, Lexi Sindel, me & Nate Bitch.

We had some crazy nights too…Alexandra Snow, Shauna Ryanne, Jasmine Mendez, Ceara Lynch, Lexi Sindel, me & Nate Bitch.

Shauna Ryanne & I with Elmo....mmm furrries:-)

Shauna Ryanne & I with Elmo….mmm furrries:-)

Out for dinner with Meggerz, Ceara Lynch & Alexandra Snow.

Out for dinner with Meggerz, Ceara Lynch & Alexandra Snow.

Here’s also a shout out to The Cupcake Girls. They provide excellent free services to women in the adult industry. (Like legal advice, medical/dental, counseling, educational support, emergency services, etc.)  They have a suite at the AVN convention where gals can come get their hair or make-up done for free, get mini massages, something to eat, etc. It’s a wonderful place to connect with other ladies in the industry & a very positive way to spread the word about the good work they do.

Meggerz & I at The Cupcake Girls suite.

Meggerz & I at The Cupcake Girls suite.

Caroline Peirce & I at The Cupcake Girls suite.

Caroline Peirce & I at The Cupcake Girls suite.

So, until we meet again! Thanks to the ladies who made this trip awesome. Particularly…& because your photo is here:

Princess Meggerz: www.Meggerz.com

Ceara Lynch: www.CearaLynch.com

Alexandra Snow: www.AlexandraSnow.com

Lexi Sindel: www.FemdomEmpire.com

Shauna Ryanne: http://shaunaryanne.weebly.com

Caroline Pierce: https://twitter.com/caroline_pierce

Jasmine Mendez: http://laughinglatina.weebly.com/

xo

Mistress T

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NY Trip Rescheduled Due To Blizzard

It's up to you New York...New York!

It’s up to you New York…New York!

This is an update for all you New Yorkers hoping to see me…you did not miss your chance! Due to the blizzard my flight was cancelled (no flights were going in or out of NY). Rather than trying to cram the bookings I had into half the time I decided to postpone the trip.

In case you’re wondering what I do about deposits in cases like this: I have the ability to issue a refund via the helpful support staff at clips4sale which I did for 1 gentleman. All the others were happy to hold tight for when I do make it to NY (within the next few months).

Note that if you ask support for a refund without my giving them the go-ahead you risk being permanently blocked from clips4sale. They do that to prevent scams. But don’t worry, if there is a legitimate reason for a refund I’m happy to facilitate it so you won’t get blocked. I’m a fair person.

If you are generous & able to make a deposit send an email introducing yourself & describe exactly what you’re hoping for during our time together (social/private/specific activities). Email: MsT@MistressT.net

Best,
Mistress T

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New York New York

The fates have aligned & I will be coming to New York soon. Well, if you call fate a generous fan compensating me enough to come there…

Me in NY in 2007! I've been back several times since but I didn't get any typical touristy photo's.

Me in NY in 2007! I’ve been back several times since but I didn’t get any typical touristy photo’s.

This fan also gave me a flexible return ticket so I decided to take a few extra days to hang with my pal Meg, you may recall she & I have gone to Vegas, Greece & New Orleans together: (http://meggerz.com/)

Meg & I in Greece in August. LOVE this gal:-)

Meg & I in Greece in August. LOVE this gal:-)

I’ll also have time to spend with some other fans.

How do you get to be one of the lucky few? Well, money obviously is key but it’s equally about ‘low maintenance’. That means I prefer fans who communicate clearly but briefly, who are willing & able to make a deposit right away to demonstrate they are reliable & serious…& frankly, fans who are just really excited about spending time with me. That means it’s more about connecting with ME than a list of services or props.

This will likely be my last trip for awhile. I plan to take some time to work on other projects (don’t worry, the vids will continue) but trips take a lot of energy & I’ll be putting that energy elsewhere. So if you want to see me, this will be you last chance for awhile.

Here’s how you apply. If you do not follow these instructions you will likely not get a reply. If I am not interested or able to see you, you may not get a reply either:

Email subject line: New York

Email body:

#1. In a short paragraph or point form explain what you’re hoping for during our time together & what you’re offering (Minimum $500).

#2. State that you are willing to make a minimum 50% deposit via the tribute button on my clips store. http://www.clips4sale.com/23869 (If you are not willing or able to do this, do not email me. No exceptions.)

My email address: MsT@MistressT.net

Cheers to rich perverts!

Cheers to rich perverts!

NOTE: Before you get all butt-hurt about it sounding like I’m all about the money & you not being able to afford to see me…put yourself in my shoes: would you rather see 6 guys a day for $200 an hour or 2 guys a day for about the same amount of money? 2 guys to negotiate all details & organize things with, versus 6? And who wants to be the last guy on the day I’ve seen 5 others? He’s not going to get the best version of me.

Also, it’s New York City! If I’m not enjoying the guy I’m seeing & being compensated well I’d rather not make money & just go enjoy the city or hang out with Meg. So if you don’t have a generous budget, sorry, that’s just the way life goes.

Best of luck to all applicants!

Mistress T

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A Gentleman’s Guide To Submission

dark_cleavageI usually avoid writing generalized “how-to” guides because although some things are universal I feel that every Domme/sub relationship should be customized.

What follows here is only my opinion. I do not speak for all Professional Dominants/online Dommes, regular life non-pro Dommes, etc.

I’ve long said that what I value most in a submissive man is good manners. To be honest, I value good manners in every person. It goes beyond just being Canadian with politeness bred into my bones. It’s not necessarily the formality of proper manners that you often get with the British (which I find delightful), it can be more casual & friendly…but the heart of it is consideration & thoughtfulness. A good submissive simply THINKS of the Dominant’s needs or wants BEFORE his own, every time.

At the risk of over-simplifying it, it really can be that simple. Just putting the Dommes needs before his own.

Taking a slightly different angle, think of it as being cared for. If you are a good submissive you ‘care’ about how your Domme feels. You care that she is happy, content, etc. You get pleasure from knowing you have made her happy. In a similar way as you would feel if you were caring for a sick person, a young person, someone who needs your help, a pet, a wounded animal, etc. If you helped someone change a tire, you would feel good. If you helped an old lady bring heavy groceries up a set of stairs to her apartment, you would feel good. If you saved a puppy that was just about to fall off a balcony, you would feel good. You get the point. The chemicals that are released which produce the emotions that make you feel good are basically the same.

So in a way, serving well is somewhat self-serving. But if you didn’t like the way it made you feel to be a good submissive than you probably wouldn’t be into that, right?

This is at the heart of submission.

Now, there is another side to ‘submission’ that sadly, if more prevalent. The so-called slave who just wants a woman to act as a puppet to fulfill his fantasies. He wants her to do specific sex acts, like piss on him, fuck him in the ass, put him in chastity, kick him in the balls, spank him, cross dress him, make him suck cock, etc. etc. It’s perfectly fine to hire a Professional Dominatrix to perform those services but understand that you are not submitting to fulfill the desires of your Mistress. It’s a different thing.

Many just have a fetish & aren’t necessarily interested in submission. They just like feet, or pantyhose, etc. and that’s fine. But one should always be a gentleman.

In my case, it is possible to hire me to fulfill your fantasy of submission, you can request certain activities, let me know what your boundaries (hard limits) are…and that’s all well & good. No judgement there. It’s how Pro Domming usually works. With structure. But consider the depth & sincerity of your experience. Consider a slight shift in your thinking. Instead of thinking only about the services you want performed, think about how you can best behave to please your Mistress. Find out what she enjoys & try it, even if it’s not top of your list, just to experience the feeling of sacrificing a little to give someone else pleasure.

Personally, I like a strong submissive. A man who is a gentleman. Not a weakling that I can bully & push around, but a man who gracefully chooses to submit to me. I like a slave who has self respect & whom I can respect.

I don’t have a lot of rules to be universally followed. It’s more of a philosophy. If you come from the right spirit than it will be received as such. That is the base from which everything else is built.

Best,
Mistress T

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A kinky short story…

“Why do you pretend to be shy?”

I replied that I didn’t like intimidating people and I wanted to be treated like a normal person.

“Darling, you couldn’t be normal if you tried. There’s a boldness in you that makes mere mortals want to bow down to you, follow your orders, gain your favor, listen to your advice.”

He was wearing a leather fetish dog mask and collar but not much else. His body was strong and toned. The leather micro shorts at least left something to the imagination…until a friend whispered in my ear that he has a huge cock.

He slowly lowered himself to his knees, his strong muscles putting on a nice display. He took on the stance of an obedient dog and gently offered himself as my pet.

I stroked my leather gloved hand over his back and he shivered. I removed my glove & touched him again. This time I shivered. This was going to be fun.

Best,
Mistress T

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Private Sessions

Want to meet me in person? Here’s what you need know:

#1. I don’t ‘tour’. Which means that I don’t go to a city (Dallas, Toronto, Amsterdam, Dubai, etc.) & see a couple dozen clients in a hotel room or dungeon rental over a few days. So if you’ve asked me if I’ll be coming to ‘your city’ because you want to book a 1 hour session with me the answer is: NO.

If you want to see me you’ll either need to come to me in Vancouver or pay all my expenses + tribute to come to you. The exact rate would be discussed based on a number of factors (# of social hours vs. private session hours, my travel time, etc.)

#2. Want to see me in Vancouver? Your best chance of seeing me in person is if you are coming to Vancouver & we can meet in your hotel room. For me that offers the highest level of safety for me. No hotel? I’d prefer to meet you in public first. My social rate is normally $100/hr. We can go for a hot or cold beverage or meal. I am VERY discreet in public.

#3. I don’t escort/engage in intercourse or oral sex with clients. No hard sports.

#4. I do offer a full range of Dominatrix/fetish/role-play scenario’s. My favorite is tie & tease with or without a hand release. Fetishes for specific items are also easy to accommodate as I have a full wardrobe of leather, latex, lingerie, hosiery, boots, shoes, gloves, etc. Mental games are my specialty.

5. Social sessions are also a favorite of mine. Conversation over a meal or beverage. Playing tour guide in my city or us exploring another city together. Plays, parties, corporate events, etc. I’m a social chameleon & fit in discretely in any scenario. My social rate is normally $100/hr.

Disclaimer: To be honest I really don’t have much time for private sessions these days but I put this page together to address the frequent requests I get for information. The majority of requests are guys asking if I’m coming to their city. If you’ve read this far I’ll give you an insider tip: I travel frequently. If you have a decent budget there is a possibility we can meet in a near by city…or if you live in NY I’m always looking for an excuse to visit my pal Meg there…but if you’re just looking for a 1 hour session or you have less than $600 to spend…it’s just not going to happen. I know, it sucks if you don’t have the money, but it’s just how I value my time. My primary business is video production & that’s where my energy goes. Seeing clients in person is not my primary business & to do that I need to be compensated well enough to justify taking that time away from video production…or my time living a healthy, balanced personal life which gives me the base to create great vids.

Email to discuss further but if you ask a question that is already answered here I will just direct you back here: MsT@MistressT.net

Best,
Mistress T

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Top 20 vids of 2014

I’m sure you’re wondering what my most popular vids were in 2014? Here’s a count down from 20th to the #1 vid of my top selling 20 vids for the last year. Did you see them all?

#20. Soul Sucking FemDom

#20. Soul Sucking FemDom

#19. Two New Sex Slaves

#19. Two New Sex Slaves

#18. Party Cocksucker

#18. Party Cocksucker

#17. Medical Exam Extraction

#17. Medical Exam Extraction

#16. New Hubby Becomes Cuckold

#16. New Hubby Becomes Cuckold

#15. Chastity Cruelty

#15. Chastity Cruelty

#14. Suck Black Cock For Me

#14. Suck Black Cock For Me

#13. Divorce or Cuckolding

#13. Divorce or Cuckolding

#12. Suck Cock Balls Ass

#12. Suck Cock Balls Ass

#11. Boobs, Big Cock & Buckets of Cum

#11. Boobs, Big Cock & Buckets of Cum

TOP 10!:

#10. Grand Cum Load Gracefully Extracted

#10. Grand Cum Load Gracefully Extracted

#9. Prison Bitch Initiation

#9. Prison Bitch Initiation

#8. Slave Sucks Cock For Us

#8. Slave Sucks Cock For Us

#7. You Love Me

#7. You Love Me

#6. Black Magic Soul Sucking

#6. Black Magic Soul Sucking

#5. Cuckold Fag Mind Fuck

#5. Cuckold Fag Mind Fuck

#4. Hand Over Control

#4. Hand Over Control

#3. Epic Cum Shot Compilation

#3. Epic Cum Shot Compilation

#2. Suck Cock To Earn Your Orgasm

#2. Suck Cock To Earn Your Orgasm

The #1 Most Popular vid of 2014 goes to “Mindblowing Handjob”! I guess it really was mind blowing! It was also released on my birthday *smile*.

#1. Mindblowing Handjob

#1. Mindblowing Handjob

Best,
Mistress T

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Home for the holidays…

Christmas morning with the family.

Christmas morning with the family.

I am back home in Vancouver after a little over a week in Nova Scotia for the holidays. I had a wonderful time! I’m often asked if my family knows what I do for a living. They all know to some extent although most of them don’t really understand, none of them are bothered by it. Some of them ask a lot of questions, some don’t ask anything at all. It is clear that I’m healthy, happy & financially secure, which is all that really matters to them. They are perhaps more perplexed about me being 38, unmarried & childless. I am the only one in my large family who didn’t get hitched & have kids before 30. I just shrug & sing: “Single bells, single bells, single all the waaaayyyy…” They laugh & the conversation moves along.

In addition to the family visit I also went out in downtown Halifax three different nights which was a rare treat.

When I was 17 my girlfriends & I started sneaking into bars in Halifax. We had so much fun during the few years I was there before I moved to Vancouver. I haven’t gone out very often in Halifax in the last 17 years but the opportunity presented itself this time & I took full advantage. The vibe in Halifax is great. So warm & down-to-earth.  Many people say that Maritimers are some of the friendliest people in the world & I concur.

Durty Nelly's is a casual pub in Halifax with live music & friendly folks of all ages.

Durty Nelly’s is a casual pub in Halifax with live music & friendly folks of all ages.

One night I ran across a live jazz band that was amazing & sat at the bar as friendly stranger after friendly stranger chatted with me. Nothing creepy or cheesy, just nice. Another night I found myself dancing for hours in a bar that felt like a house party while two fella’s played their guitars & sang their hearts out. Everyone was smiling & enjoying the crowd, no pretension, no looking at iphones. Another night I went on a pub crawl, a Haligonian tradition. If you ever get a chance to party in Halifax, no matter your age, go for it. You’ll be welcomed with open arms like you can’t even imagine.

I miss it already & may get back there sooner than usual.

A crisp, sunny day exploring one of rural Nova Scotia's fishing villages.

A crisp, sunny day exploring one of rural Nova Scotia’s fishing villages.

Now I sit here in Vancouver typing this, watching the sun rise (jet lag woke me up very early)…thinking about all my wonderful friends in Vancouver I’ll see in the next few days over New Years. Home is where you hang your hat.

Best,
Mistress T

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Merry Ho…Ho:-)

Click the link below to see the free vid.

Click the link below to see the free vid.

Link to vid above: http://www.MistressT.net/free_video

Happy (whatever you celebrate)! …or in some cases…it may not be happy. For some this time may be dull, lonely or even depressing. Some of you will have some happy moments but will also have extra time on your hands with vacation time from work.

I am sensitive to the fact that this is not necessarily a happy time for some of you. In an attempt to escape those unhappy moments you may choose to spend more time masturbating to porn. I’m not a therapist (I just play one in adult vids) but masturbating may not be the worst thing you could so for yourself right now. So I always release a few extra vids during this time & I release at least a couple special ones that I think many guys will really love.

I also made this casual little free vid (see above) to hopefully give you a warm feeling & put a smile on your face. It’s been scientifically proven that the act of smiling, even if forced, releases some of those happy chemicals that lift your mood. So maybe watch some comedy stuff too?

As the vid says: “Thank you for being a fan…& take care of you.”

Big love,

Mistress T

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Spoiled in Orlando

I’m at the tail end of a wonderful few days in Orlando, Florida. One of my dearest clients decided that it would be a treat for both of us to go to Disney together. It was! We also went to Epcot…& for some fancy meals. Today he treated me to a spa day (on my own as he had to leave early).

Cinderella's castle at Disney in Orlando

Cinderella’s castle at Disney in Orlando

At the haunted house (Disney Orlando)

At the haunted house (Disney Orlando)

At Epcot...so many awesome things to do there!

At Epcot…so many awesome things to do there!

Surrounded by luxury the whole trip...gorgeous upscale hotel...fancy dinners out...

Surrounded by luxury the whole trip…gorgeous upscale hotel…fancy dinners out…

Enjoying the relaxation room at the spa today...

Enjoying the relaxation room at the spa today…

Soaking in the spa jacuzzi...getting spoiled rotten

Soaking in the spa jacuzzi…getting spoiled rotten

This is one of those ‘professional’ relationships that falls in the gray area. He’s been a wonderful & dedicated fan for over 5 years, buying my vids, sending me generous & thoughtful presents, many complimentary & supportive emails & we’ve gotten together several times over the years in various US & Canadian cities. We treat each other like friends…I like to think that we are genuine friends…but he also fairly compensates me for my time. Some cynical people would say that I shouldn’t accept his money if I consider us to be genuine friends…but shouldn’t I? He has it to give & it gives him pleasure to spoil me. I’m not into financial domination & I admit sometimes it feels like too much…but I never ask for a thing & it seems rude to not accept. Should everyone who loves & enjoys their ‘job’ or their clients not get paid? What’s the good of cake if you can’t eat it too? *grin*

So I’m off to Nova Scotia tomorrow to spend Christmas with my family. Although I get back every year for a visit this will actually be the first time I’ve been home for Xmas since I left 17 years ago. That’s a pretty big deal. It should be…fun? I have a fairly big family with a lot of interesting characters. They all have at least a vague idea of what I do & don’t care. They’re an accepting, non-judgmental, easy-going bunch. I know I’ll be eating a lot. They’ve been doing their Christmas baking for weeks, freezing cookies, squares, sweets & diabetes-causing goodies in preparation. Wish me luck!

xo

Mistress T

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