New Orleans, Louisiana: Thanks for a GREAT time!

I’m back in Vancouver after an amazing trip to Louisiana (New Orleans & Shreveport). I’ve wanted to see New Orleans for a long time, especially after reading about it in Anne Rice’s novel “Exit To Eden” (terrible movie but a decent book.)

I love New Orleans! Historic...& haunted? Hmmm:-)

I love New Orleans! Historic…& haunted? Hmmm:-)

I went to the notorious haunted house “The House Of Shock”, did a “Haunted New Orleans” walking tour, a swamp tour to see Gators, plus the historic Voo Doo museum, the Pharmacy Museum, The Katrina Hurricane exhibit, the WW2 museum and the oldest convent in the US. Meg & I also did a road trip to Shreveport.

Meg & I went to the WW2 museum. I highly recommend it.

Meg & I went to the WW2 museum. I highly recommend it.

Can you spot me? Pic from the Pharmacy Museum. There's a guided tour that I loved so much I did it twice!

Can you spot me? Pic from the Pharmacy Museum. There’s a guided tour that I loved so much I did it twice!

Lots of eye candy at the official, historic Voo Doo Museum!

Lots of eye candy at the official, historic Voo Doo Museum!

My favorite travel pal Meggerz (http://meggerz.com/) joined me for some of the trip, as did Ceara Lynch (http://www.cearalynch.com/), Mina Thorne (http://www.minathorne.com/) & Lexi Sindel (http://femdomempire.com/videos/sets.php?id=1). I had the pleasure of meeting Angela Sommers (http://angelasommers.com/) as well. What a sweet person!

(No photo’s but I also got to meet the dynamic Christian XXX (http://clips4sale.com/65419) & the lovely Jacquelyn Velvets (http://www.velvetsfantasies.com/)

Meg, Ceara & I on the swamp tour through the Bayou.

Meg, Ceara & I on the swamp tour through the Bayou.

We saw lots of Gators!

We saw lots of Gators!

Mina Thorne! Such a solid, good person.

Mina Thorne! Such a solid, good person.

Angela Sommers, myself & Mina Thorne...NOT in trouble with the law, at all. Hell, we could have probably gotten away with anything:-)

Angela Sommers, myself & Mina Thorne…NOT in trouble with the law, at all. Hell, we could have probably gotten away with anything:-)

Lexi Sindel & I looking sweet one moment...

Lexi Sindel & I looking sweet one moment…

Goofy in the next! (Lexi Sindel, Professional Boob Tester)

Goofy in the next! (Lexi Sindel, Professional Boob Tester)

I also listened to great music, ate delicious food & had numerous interactions with charming & friendly locals. I loved walking around the French Quarter looking at the beautiful old buildings & learning about its fascinating history.

Lots of fantastic live music in New Orleans!

Lots of fantastic live music in New Orleans!

Meg & I did a road trip to Shreveport & found the crumbling parts of the city scenic…& sometimes unusual…

Shreveport was full of interesting old houses & buildings! Meg & I loved exploring.

Shreveport was full of interesting old houses & buildings! Meg & I loved exploring.

HUGE cocks in Shreveport!

HUGE cocks in Shreveport!

Lastly I’ll mention a memorable experience we had at the Sunday night market on Frenchman Street just on the edge of the French Quarter in New Orleans. We spotted a women with a typewriter & a sign saying “Smut While U Wait”. We learned that this very talented woman is Cameryn Moore (http://www.camerynmoore.com/)…her twitter blurb says: “Playwright/performer, sidewalk pornographer, educator, activist, comedian, sexy event-maker… oh, and a phone sex operator. See Phone Whore at EdFringe 2014!” https://twitter.com/camerynmoore

Here’s what she does at her little spot on Frenchman street…& what she did for each of us: she spends a few minutes interviewing you, asking questions about your sexual interests & other things, it kind of felt like going to confession or a therapist (in a good way)…then she sends you away for 20 minutes while she types up a smutty story custom just for you. She then gives you the option of having her read it out loud…in private or in front of your friends. Well, Ceara, Meg & I all took our turns listening to a very personal, custom sexy story written for each of us. Thrilling…and rather intimate, when you think about it. Certainly one of the most uniquely memorable experiences from this trip!

The talented Cameryn Moore!

The talented Cameryn Moore!

Meg, Ceara & I at the Sunday night market on Frenchman St. in New Orleans.

Meg, Ceara & I at the Sunday night market on Frenchman St. in New Orleans.

Best,
Mistress T

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A special re-connection…

MistressT Fetish Goddess

Looking back…

Way back when I was a new Pro Domme I had a house boy nicknamed “Puppy”. We had an amazingly comfortable & delightful relationship. I didn’t know then how lucky I was. I have since realized that most so-called house boys end up being high-maintenance, drama-plagued disappointments.

Puppy was anything but a disappointment. He tried really hard to please me in every way & he usually achieved that goal. He was a pleasure to have around but after several months of excellent service his work took him away & he sadly left me.

I was never able to replace him & eventually gave up on house boys & personal servants all together. I remembered him fondly but didn’t hear from him for years.

Last week I received this email:

Hi Mistress T,

You will have to search your memory banks to remember me and I hope that your memories might be fond ones.  You named me ‘puppy’ and I was your service slave for some time when you were first starting out as a professional Dominatrix. 
I saw you recently at a fetish event and I wanted to say ‘hi’ but not surprisingly you were always surrounded by people.  I was not sure if you would remember me after so long and did not want make you feel awkward if I walked up and you did not remember me.  

I never said so this in your presence because I always got tongue tied but you are the most intelligent, graceful, articulate, thoughtful, funny, creative and all around amazing woman that I have ever had the honor of knowing.  You are also one of the most honorable, ethical and integrity filled people that I have ever met and I have had the good fortune to know lots of quality people in my life.  You always conducted yourself with grace and class and I have always admired all of those traits in you even after I was no longer serving you.

Thank you for teaching me all that you did.  And thank you for your patience with my many mistakes.  I delighted in pleasing you with my cooking.  I loved the idea that putting meals in your freezer was helping to take care of you, not that you needed to be taken care of, but simply as a symbol of my devotion.

I don’t really know why it has taken me this long to have the balls to contact you and say ‘hello’.  I understand if you are too busy and/or have no interest in returning my email.  I am happy with the simple thought that this email might please you or bring even a brief smile to that beautiful face of yours.  

Even if I do not hear back from you I wish you continued success in all you do.  Though that is really a given with your talent and intelligence.  I hope that your life is filled with much love, peace and happiness.

Your puppy

I was delighted to receive this email, naturally. As I mentioned, he served me in the beginning when I was still figuring things out. A lot has happened in the last eight years. I invited him to join me at a fetish event Saturday night. I received this email after:

Dearest Mistress T,

It was absolutely wonderful to see you last night.  I really enjoyed reconnecting with you again.  Thank you for your kind words and for graciously allowing me to dance with you and your slave.  Somehow you have grown even more charming, witty, graceful and beautiful than I remembered.  Trust me when I say that is no mean feat.  

I truly hold you in the highest regard.  Not just because you are ‘kinkyasfuck’.  But simply as a human being who has the courage to live life honestly and on her own terms.

With much affection,
puppy

I’m not sure yet what place puppy might hold in my life in the future but it’s nice to have him back & it would be nice to have him around. We’ll see. So many slaves, fans & clients have come & gone over the years. Some have stuck around but the nature of the business is that there are many single-serving relationships. It really means something to me to have longer term relationships.

Speaking of long-term vs. short-term…I’m excited to see one of my longest running, most devoted slaves in Orlando just before Christmas! He has been with me for years & we’ve followed each others ups & downs…the relationship is strong & mutually fulfilling. He’s taking me to Disney & I’m SO looking forward to it!

At this point I plan to only see him during my stay but if I end up with any free time I’ll contact those who have applied to be on an Orlando contact list (email: MsT@MistressT.net with “Orlando” in the subject line.)
Best,
Mistress T

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Film Slave Application

I get a lot of emails from guys hoping to be in my films. So here’s all the info you need to apply correctly (Note: Who? What? Where? When?):

1. LOCATION! (Where?) I am only planning to film in Vancouver starting April 2016 for the foreseeable future. I am not filming at all until then & I have no plans to travel anywhere else & film at this time. So if you are not in Vancouver or willing/able to come to Vancouver there is no need to apply.

(Do not email asking if I’m coming to Denver, Germany, Boston, Toronto, Dubai or anywhere else to film. I travel a lot but I don’t film all over the world. If you can’t come to me but you can afford to pay all my expenses to come to you, then maybe, but I don’t “tour” & it’s highly unlikely I will randomly be in your city. I do not have plans to return to the UK at this time.)

2. PICS. (Who?) You should never send an unsolicited “dick pic” to anyone…but if you’re seriously applying to be a film slave I need to know what you look like. But not just your dick: your whole nude torso with erect penis. I prefer fit guys with big cocks for most of my films but there are certain roles where other body types & penis sizes are used. Face pic optional.

3. WHAT? List what you would be useful for in a film/what you’re into. Here’s what I would be most interested in:

-really big dicks that produce big loads of cum (for FemDom Fetish Handjobs)

-guys that can take big strap-ons

-cross-dressings/sissy’s

-forced bi guys who will suck or get sucked by a dude

-ballbusting guys

4. WHEN? If you’re coming to Vancouver: when? If you live here: what days/evenings are you available? (Again, I won’t be filming until April 2016)

Note that everyone appearing in my films must be over 18, sign a model release & be photographed holding their photo ID next to their face (whether you show your face in the vid or not).

I have more film slaves than I need right now so if you’re not accepted but you want to book a private session, that’s also an option. Some of my film slaves started out as private session guys.

Recap: When you email me be brief & include the “WHO? (pic) – WHAT (activities/roles) – WHEN (dates?) – WHERE (Specify Vancouver)”

Email: MsT@MistressT.net

Best,
Mistress T

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Forced Bi: Myth or Real?

Glory hole forced cock sucking! Mistress T & Amica Bentley.

Glory hole forced cock sucking! Mistress T & Amica Bentley.

Why do I ask if it’s a myth? Well, I have long made jokes about guys who ask to be made to suck cock…accusing them of just being cowardly bisexuals who needed a nudge to cross that line.

A mountain of personal experience is finally starting to convince me that straight guys DO exist who have no interest in gay activities without a female present. They have no desire to hook up with a guy online, go to a gay bathhouse, get drunk with a buddy & play hide the salami, watch gay porn, etc. They absolutely require a female they’re attracted to there…preferably in control & encouraging them to put that penis in their mouth…or lick those balls/ass, eat that cum, etc.

Mistress T making a slave suck cock.

It’s like a FemDom version of ‘Bobbing For Apples’!

These days we are certainly learning that sexuality is not black & white. Gay, straight, bisexaul, pansexual, gay-situational, male, female, transgender, sissy, kinky, vanilla, Dom, sub, switch…on & on.

So folks, it’s complicated. It’s unfortunate that we get locked into labels & our feelings about those labels. I know many guys are really conflicted & confused about aspects of their sexuality. They really love women & are only attracted to women…yet really want to feel a dick in their mouth…maybe as an act of submission to the larger cock that gets to fuck the female of their desire (talking about a cuckolding scenario here).

Whatever the deep psychology of it is (I’m not really a therapist, I just play one in weird porn movies) I have met enough straight guys who want to suck dick (for me or with a woman present) to know they do exist. I can no longer deny it. Or mock it, as I’ve been known to do with a lot of eye-rolling, implying they were just closeted bisexuals who needed a shove.

So let your freak flag fly if you’re one of those guys…or whatever kind of freak you are. Thanks to the internet you can find others like you. The more we accept & even celebrate our differences the sooner we can ruin the hotness of feeling like we’re into some dark, twisted, taboo stuff that makes us a secret pervert, like a super hero secret. Wait, what did I just say? Yeah, that’s the flip side of all this information sharing…there was a time when secret inclinations explored on the down-low was a major part of what made it sexy. Overall I think it’s better for things to be out in the open…but there is a part of me that misses the days when I first started to explore kinky stuff & thought I was special. When I felt a bit of shame for being so perverted. Like chasing the dragon, you can never go back to your first time.

On that note…if you’re into Forced Bi stuff it’s a genre I’ve done a lot in. Why? Because it sells like crazy! Obviously there’s a huge demand for it. But also because I really enjoy it. A lot of women watch gay male porn or get aroused seeing two guys gettin’ freaky. I also get a thrill pushing men to do extreme things FOR ME, especially if it’s their first time. Hey, I can’t get a lot of my “first times” back (remember the chasing the dragon thing?) so I live vicariously through my puppets who experience new kinky things at my hands.

You can search “Forced Bi” on my clips store but I don’t use the word ‘forced’ on my members site (the payment processor doesn’t like it) so I call it ‘encouraged bi’…which really is more accurate anyway. The search function on my site works great:

See the handy search field there?  "Encouraged Bi" will lead you to all my "Forced Bi" stuff since I can't use the word "Forced" on my site.

See the handy search field there? “Encouraged Bi” will lead you to all my “Forced Bi” stuff since I can’t use the word “Forced” on my site.

You can see the search field on my clips store too...you can also search the category "Forced Bi".

You can see the search field on my clips store too…you can also search the category “Forced Bi”.

xo
Mistress T

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Jerk Off To Improve Sex

Mistress T in a latex nurse's outfit.

Trust me, I’m a professional…

A lot of my fans are chronic masturbators…jerking off at least a couple times a day to porn. Orgasms are really good for you, medically & mentally. It reduces your chances of getting prostate cancer, reduces stress, etc. So let’s talk about masturbating BETTER! Specifically how to masturbate to have better sex (if you get the opportunity).

1. Make sure your dick will be ready to fuck a real pussy! If your dick only knows your hand & you jerk the same way every time you may struggle to keep your boner or to ejaculate when it’s “business time”.

Experiment with lighter grips & hand positions/use your other hand. Don’t always do exactly the same thing.

Masturbate while wearing a condom! (I’m told this is called a “Posh Wank” in the UK). Get your dick used to fucking with a rubber (often free at clinics).

Get a Fleshlight or other masturbation device that feels more like a vagina. You can shop on the internet discreetly for that stuff or your local sex shop.

Or make your own home made one! I googled “DIY masturbation device” and found this helpful article, I’m sure there’s more (Feel free to comment below if you have a DIY tip to share): http://www.literotica.com/s/homemade-pussy-device

That DIY (do-it-yourself) article reminded me of when I was a horny, resourceful teen. I made an ‘insertable’ by wrapping tissues around the neck of a wine bottle (to make it softer & more life-like) & securing a condom over it with an elastic band. Yup, I was THAT serious about safe sex. Ha ha:-)

2. Build a better orgasm AND learn orgasm control by ‘edging’ yourself. Bring yourself close to orgasm then ease off…let it build again & just before you ejaculate, ease off or stop…repeat several times (or for hours!) before finally enjoying a powerful release. This will help you have more control if you do have sex with a woman (no one likes a minute man!)

3. Try different things. It’s okay to like what ya like…but experiment with variations of what you like. This will help you keep a boner & ejaculate at the right time when in situations other than just that one specific way you’re used it. You can watch different porn, or hell, use your imagination once in a while (worst advice ever from a smut peddler, eh?)…Try sitting, standing, laying down, in the shower, maybe sneak one off at work or in the car (don’t get caught).

That should keep you busy for awhile. Remember, sex takes practice and your biggest sex organ is your brain. That means if you’re nervous you might find your penis not behaving as you like. There’s a lot more to sex then just intercourse…like touching, kissing, massage, teasing…You always have a mouth & if you learn to lick pussy like a champ your lady won’t mind if it takes your dick awhile to catch up.

Best,
Mistress T

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