Adventures in real life cuckolding…

About 10 days ago I posted that I wanted a real life cuckold that I could also financially Dominate. It seemed like a tall order but that’s never stopped me before.

I checked Craigslist for ads from guys looking for a cuckolding arrangement & responded to a few. Then I placed my own ad looking for a cuckold. I received an avalanche of responses. My inbox was filled with mostly rubbish. Guys who didn’t know what cuckolding was, guys who didn’t read my ad but were just responding to any woman, guys who said they didn’t want to be a cuckold but they’d like to be my bull, a bunch of predictable messages like “hey, wanna hook up tonight” & surprisingly few dick pics. I deleted about 90% of the emails.

Buried in the pile there were a few potentials. As I started narrowing down the applicants an interesting email rolled in from one of the ads I responded to. A rather blown away former slave of mine who had served me about 8 years ago. He happened to be looking for exactly what I was looking for & was amazed at his luck that I had responded to his ad. We’ll call him “NotBored” (because he complained about finding submissive women boring & his difficulties in finding truly Dominant women to hold his interest.)

NotBored met up with us last week for a bite & drinks. We all hit it off so set up another date. This time dinner at an upscale restaurant. Things went really well again & we headed back to my place for a night cap. It felt really comfortable. We were all in sync with what we were looking for in an intimate cuckolding arrangement….but we also got along really well otherwise. It was fun & easy hanging out.

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I decided to have a shower to freshen up, then rubbed coconut oil all over myself while my boyfriend sang & played his guitar for us. I loved teasing them both, seeing them squirm as they watched me. We headed to the candlelit bedroom. I told NotBored to sit on a chair beside the bed & watch. He wasn’t allowed to play with himself but he could take pics. I also ordered him to freshen my drink & to bring me water. Small, easy orders to follow but sometimes a little Domination foreplay is nice. My natural style is playfully bossy, seductively teasing with the slightest edge of coldness, an understanding that you don’t want to cross me. My personal slaves rarely test that.

So he watched while my lover & I made love. I teased “NotBored” a little…with what might be in time if he’s a very good boy. I got off on denying him an orgasm.

These are pics he took…you can see what he saw:

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It was a wonderful evening & I’m excited for what the future might hold. Hopefully a mutually enjoyable intimate connection, a friendship, sexual adventures & personal growth.

I am continuing my search as I don’t see why I can only have one cuckold, I could have several…but this is also a little “fuck you” to the two, yes TWO applicants who cancelled/chickened out at the last minute & didn’t even meet us. Your cowardice is beyond comprehension. I strive to live my life boldly, fearlessly, completely the opposite of your gutlessness & I’ve been rewarded. To the one who sent the $200 gift card to prove he was serious (but then chickened out anyway): dinner was delicious, thanks at least for that…but wow. I hope this blog post really tortures you with the realization of what you missed out on.

As for the rest of you drooling, envious cuckold hopefuls…if you are in Vancouver or are willing/able to come here on a regular basis (an ongoing relationship is what I’m looking for, not one-off sessions) feel free to apply. I love to feel appreciated & spoiled so you must be in a financial position to be generous. Distance cucks are also welcome to apply…to have a taste at least of something very special…but the arrangement will be different. Very heavy on the Financial Domination part & less interaction from us over skype/email. I prefer to reserve my energy for in-person connections.

xo

Mistress T

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Is Financial Domination contagious?

Mistress T

In my early days as a Professional Dominatrix before I started doing videos, I received an email from a guy in New York who offered to send me $100 on the spot just to speak with me on the phone for a few minutes. I found that strange & thrilling. I could hardly believe it when he actually sent the money. He was the first one to tell me about Financial Domination & said he was a pay pig. I had never heard of such a thing.

Over the years I’ve met with him several times & he’s spent a lot of money on me. One time he paid $1000 just to have me snowball my boyfriends cum into his mouth! My boyfriend & I literally skipped down the streets of Manhattan after bursting with joyful disbelief at what just happened.

He’s come & gone over the last decade but he’s certainly the most generous & the most authentic ‘pay pig’ I’ve had. I never really felt drawn to Financial Domination otherwise. I’m not materialistic, I’m not greedy & I didn’t have the patience to wade through the mountains of time-wasters most FinDom’s complain about. Maybe it’s my country upbringing & strong work ethic…but the idea of getting paid for nothing holds less appeal than getting paid well for something. No offense to the many amazing FinDom’s out there, some of which are my close friends. I just don’t seem to be wired that way, otherwise I suppose I would have attracted more authentic ‘pay pigs’ along the way.

But…recently I’ve been drawn to the idea of having a generous cuckold. I’m not sure where the idea started but lately I’ve desired a very specific kind of arrangement. A cuckold who I actually like & enjoy spending time with. One that I tease & deny, sometimes playfully. Fun tease & denial, not serious or mean denial. A cuckold who is into both mental and physical Domination.

Very key to my ideal fantasy is that the cuckold very genuinely loves to please me, loves to give me gifts, do nice things for me, pamper me & enhance my life. To be truly worshiped & adored, not just for my body but for my mind.

I’m financially secure. I don’t need a sugar daddy, I don’t need my rent paid & I don’t need to be rescued. I love to feel appreciated though & the right cuckold would be in the financial position to generously express his gratitude for the opportunity to be an important part of my life.

So…am I catching the Financial Domination bug? I have no interest in blackmail, in forcing a guy to pay me, in demanding payment or putting him on a payment schedule. Yet…I find the idea of being spoiled thrilling.

Recently I put a few pairs of new boots on my wish list, not for me, but for my boyfriend. I was absolutely thrilled when two different cuckolds got him new boots! That’s a new twist for me & I like it. So where do we go from here? Well, geography is going to be the biggest challenge followed by financial security. Finding the right cuckold in Vancouver might be tough. I’ll put it out there into the universe & we’ll see what happens *smile*.

Email: MsT@MistressT.net

xo

Mistress T

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The Art of the “Tribute”.

I am not an expert on Financial Domination. Not even close. This post isn’t about FinDom either…to be clear…it’s just my thoughts on “tributes” and some of my recent experiences.

Lots of gifts from my Amazon Wish List!

Lots of gifts from my Amazon Wish List!

A rose by any other name would smell as sweet…a tribute is basically a gift. It’s called a tribute in the FemDom world based on your worship of “The Goddess”…but it’s basically a gift…and it often feels just as good to give a gift as it does to receive it.

A gift is not normally exchanged for something. You don’t give a birthday gift to someone you love expecting something in return. You may well get something in return but it isn’t like paying for a thing or a service. It isn’t a barter.

I have a fan who takes care of my tea needs. How it all came about now doesn’t matter but on an ongoing basis he checks in to see how my tea supply is & when I’m running low he mails me my favorite tea. I drink green tea pretty much constantly when I’m at home & I often think of him when I’m enjoying that tea.

I love tea!

I love tea!

By doing something sweet, simple & thoughtful he remains top of mind. Because of that he was contacted directly recently when I was passing through his part of the world & we met up for a session & dinner. There are very few fans who would have that opportunity.

I have another fan who is always looking for thoughtful ways to tribute me. He has sent me books & movies that I have shown interest in. He has provided unique insight into topics I’ve been curious about. He always sends thoughtful, generous gifts for my birthday. He is always thinking of me & I know it. He is one of the only ones who gets random emails from me just chatting about life because he stays in my mind.

My Amazon Wish List (http://www.amazon.com/registry/wishlist/LYLSUGVVJA6W/ref=cm_sw_r_tw_ws_Ui5Zvb045VBN0) has served as an excellent vehicle for all kinds of fans to show their adoration for me. At first I added sexy clothing, things I thought my fans wanted to see me in. Fishnet body stockings, slutty boots, etc. I was reluctant to add ‘practical’ items like frying pans, laundry soap, comfortable foot wear, winter coats, bird seed, tooth paste, granola bars, etc. But as I started to add those things & guys bought them for me I realized how very appropriate this was. How that is in-line with what I’ve been preaching for years: there is fantasy & there is reality.

In fantasy I spend all day in my castle wearing thigh-high leather stiletto boots, wielding a whip & being pampered & served by all manner of slaves, one in my bathroom for toilet duties, sex slaves chained up in the bedroom, kitchen slaves & servants cooking & cleaning, a slave as a door mat & boot cleaner, all my furniture just being human chairs, etc.

This is not my living room.

This is not my living room.

In reality I walk a lot & need comfortable shoes. I don’t have or want domestic slaves. I live in a regular apartment, do my own laundry, etc. I would rather have some useful kitchen gear or yummy granola bars than another fishnet body stocking (I have about 30 of them by now!).

This is the truth & although I want my fans to immerse themselves in the fantasies I carefully create while they’re jerking off…afterward I want them to remember I am a real person, a regular human, not a 2 dimensional porn puppet. Thinking that I am a whip-wielding sex pot Dominatrix 24/7 is actually objectifying & unhealthy.

Cinderella's castle at Disney in Orlando...not MY castle!

Cinderella’s castle at Disney in Orlando…not MY castle!

When I receive a tribute of any kind I feel ‘seen’, acknowledged & appreciated. Whether it’s appreciation for the way I make a fan feel with my vids or it’s a gift to support me in my regular life…it just feels GREAT. Based on some fans sending on-going tributes I assume they’re getting similar pleasure…or in some cases I’m sure it’s a “Financial Domination” type rush.

Some guys even give to charity as a way of tributing me…& that’s a beautiful thing to do. Here’s info on my favorite charity, Kiva, you can make micro-loans (with or without getting the free time on my site): http://www.mistresst.net/blog/uncategorized/loan-to-a-worthwile-cause-get-free-porn/

So, thanks to all the fans who tribute…for the love of the tribute. The fans who appreciate me & like to do things to make me smile. Of course, joining my members site and/or buying my vids from my clips store is the BEST way to support me. That is my core business, my art, my passion! Amazon gift cards, cash tributes on my clips store or sending gifts are all lovely & very much appreciated too. xo

Big love,

Mistress T

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My new Amazon Wish List!

I have finally started an Amazon Wishlist: http://amzn.com/w/LYLSUGVVJA6W

Most of you already know what that is…for those who don’t here’s a humorous explanation: http://www.complex.com/pop-culture/2010/12/porn-stars-amazon-wish-lists-an-analysis/

Basically, it’s a way for you to give me gifts, to tribute me, to show your gratitude, to see me in things you’d like to see me in, etc. It’s especially great for Financial Domination slaves/scenario’s, pay pigs, etc. The more you buy, the more of a thrill it will be. This is a great way to serve me from afar.

So what’s MY story regarding a wishlist? Why did I create one after being in the business for so many years without one? Peer pressure really. A combination of fans asking for my wishlist so they could tribute me & my peers expressing shock that I don’t have one. Every Domme I meet who has a wishlist LOVES the whole experience.

I’ve had it for a few days and I gotta say, it is fun seeing what items have already been purchased. I look forward to picking them up from the post office. It will be like my birthday all the time.

I understand the concept. I’m a generous person myself & I get a great deal of pleasure from treating others. Especially girls. There is something special about buying girls things that make them happy.

In addition to lots of sexy, slutty things I’ve also chosen some more practical every day cloths that I would just love to have, jackets, tops, dresses, etc. If you’re the kind of gentleman who prefers to cloth me that way…it’s just as appreciated, if not more so.

If you want to see me do a custom vid in an item you’ve purchased for me, for a trial period I will do some custom vids at no extra charge beyond the cost of the item. Customs normally start at $100. What customs I do will still be up to my discretion but email me to discuss: MsT@MistressT.net

Happy hunting!

Mistress T

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You better make more money than I can spend! Lol

Winter is coming & I can’t wear this! Send cloths quick! *smile*