Does Your Family Know What You Do???

Me in flannel PJ's

Me in flannel PJ’s

For today’s un-sexy but intimate blog post I answer a recent question from a fan (& the frequent question of “Does your family know what you do?”):

“Since you have spoken a bit about your personal life, I just wondered how a mistress is perceived in her immediate family ? How do parents, cousins, siblings, neighbors look at you? Is there awe/fear/bemusement/curiosity/disgust/quiet acceptance?
At family functions are you a celebrity or is there finger pointing. Sorry if i am intrusive but i have always wondered how normal is life for you outside the lifestyle. Sometimes i wonder how my mom or close family would react if i told her/the that i had paid a woman to be able to drink her pee. Wonder how your mom reacted the first time you told her you humiliated a strange man into similar deeds. Just curious since you are a larger than life FemDom celebrity.”

From my person interaction with women in the adult industry I would say that everyone has their own story. So I won’t speak in generalities I will simply answer for me.

My family has some idea of what I do. Most of them don’t understand exactly what I do, they haven’t seen my website & I don’t spell out specific graphic details, but they know it has something to do with sex/porn/being a Dominatrix. Most of them aren’t interested in knowing more. They don’t ask a lot of questions, in some cases because it would just be awkward for them, in other cases because they have too much respect for me to do anything that might make me uncomfortable.

“Respect”? Does that surprise some of you? It’s all about perspective. My family doesn’t see a harlot when they look at me, they see the grown up version of a good girl with a bit of a wild side. They see a woman in her late 30′s who looks great, who has never had a substance abuse problem, never had a gambling problem, never been in an abusive relationship, hasn’t had an unwanted pregnancy, hasn’t been in trouble with the law, has never asked them for money, etc. They see an adult woman who has traveled the world, who is financially secure, who is happy, healthy & living her life on her terms.

In their words: “How can we find fault in how you decide to lead your life?” They respect me & my personal choices.

My family doesn’t see ‘my job’ when they look at me. They ask questions about my travels, about my life in Vancouver…they ask about my love life, they ask if I want kids, etc. They don’t treat me like a celebrity because frankly, the idea of me being a celebrity wouldn’t have occurred to them. They probably don’t even know there are ‘celebrities’ in the kind of work I do.

In other circles though I am sometimes uncomfortably treated as a celebrity. At some fetish functions or meeting people in the kink community. I quickly try to get people to see me as a regular person (with an unusual job). I try to put people at ease if they seem intimidated or in awe of me. I’m really uncomfortable with that in regular social situations. It can happen if someone else has built me up, told them “Mistress T” will be here, “she’s a famous fetish porn star” or if it’s a guy who has run across my vids on the internet & can’t believe he’s meeting me in the flesh. Argh.

In normal social situations I’m goofy, funny, an active listener, curious about other people, empathetic…the last thing I want is to be put on a pedestal or pseudo stage and asked a thousand questions about my work. I prefer to listen than talk about myself.

As for this part of the question: “Sometimes i wonder how my mom or close family would react if i told her/the that i had paid a woman to be able to drink her pee.”

Your family probably doesn’t want to know if you’ve paid a woman to do anything sexual to you. They probably don’t want you to know what they do sexually in private either. Neither of you care to know the graphic details of each others sex lives.

Privacy is becoming a luxury from the past. The internet is changing this & as more people are accidentally exposed people are realizing that there are more people into ‘weird’ things than ‘normal’. Society is becoming less judgmental & more accepting. But most people, especially family members, are learning information they would rather just not know.

Feel free to ask other questions in the comments area & I’ll address them.

Cheers,

Mistress T

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The Joy of NOT Fucking Me.

Mistress T in Honeymoon Cuckolding.

Is that a close enough look cuck?

Does the title sound a bit strange to you? If so you might be one of the many men (or women?) who would really like to fuck me. Maybe you even fantasize about actually penetrating me or cumming inside of me?

Well, if you weren’t a few minutes ago you probably are now.

There is a whole other world though…men who get off on being denied sexually, being teased or ‘cuckolded’. Sometimes humiliation is part of it, being told they’re not worthy. Others just seem to have a frustration fetish. Some don’t even want to cum, they want total orgasm denial. Chastity can be a part of that.

Why? Why is anyone into anything they’re into?

Chastity!

You won’t be fucking me or cumming locked up in your cage!

I’m very amused by these scenario’s. I get session requests (in person & online) & custom vid requests where guys just want me to tease them with what they can’t have. Describe the sex acts they’ll never have with me, the intimate pleasures they’ll never experience. One of my favorite things to do is to get quite romantic, sensually intimate, without actually doing much of anything. Grazing my nails & fingertips along their skin & through their hair, breathing softly on their neck, moaning quietly in their ear, pressing myself against them so gently they almost don’t register the pressure…

Sweet seduction followed by…

Nothing really. Maybe a little giggle at their squirming & discomfort. A bright smile at their frustration.

Nude Mistress T & a slave.

So close yet so far…

It makes me feel powerful, I admit. Having a man want me so badly. To have his body & cock screaming to do what is supposed to be ‘natural’. To go against nature & to leave him humping the air pathetically.

That might be why I enjoy cuckolding so much. I get to feed my desire to deny a man sex with me while at the same time getting my sexual needs met by another. My cake & eat it too.

I love to say “no”. And I love to say “yes”.

Best,
Mistress T

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A Slippery Slope…

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I had a private session recently with a guy who had found himself on a slippery slope of perversion. He was in his mid 20′s and was somewhat inexperienced sexually. He had stumbled across my vids randomly on the internet and was happy to learn we lived in the same city.

He had always liked women’s feet. Summer brought lots of pretty feet in flip flops & strappy sandals. He started looking for foot vids on the internet to masturbate to. He had no idea how to actually live out his fantasy. He even had a girlfriend but he was too shy to say anything to her about his interest in feet. So he booked a session with me.

He had obviously done his research since his initial email was perfectly communicated, to the point with nice manners. He arrived on time & even brought thoughtful gifts! He was so nervous that I could see his hands shaking as he set down the money.

We chatted for a bit. I tried to put him at ease. I didn’t need a guy dropping from a heart attack. That’s lousy for business.

He explained that he hoped this session would break him free of his fetish. He hoped that if he lived it out, actually worshiped a woman’s feet that he would “get it out of his system” and move on. I just smiled sweetly and tried not to laugh.

We spent a lot of time with me sitting on his tummy with my feet on his face. I like sitting on guys and he was curious about “human furniture” too. We discussed his sex life with his girlfriend. I gave some suggestions on how he could attempt to introduce foot worship gently to her, or at least test the waters to see if she would be receptive:

- offer foot rubs when her feet might be sore, then be good at rubbing them, go slow & carefully.

- have a bath together and get into the position where they are facing each other & her feet are on his chest…then give her toes a little kiss, see how she responds…maybe start to lick and suck her toes gently.

- during intercourse get into the position where she’s laying down with her feet up on his shoulders (he should be upright so their bodies are at 90 degrees, not her bent in half) and during the heat of the moment bring her foot to his lips and sensually kiss & lick a little to see how she reacts.

He appreciate these tips and in the course of conversation mentioned that sometimes he doesn’t last very long during intercourse. So I gave him some tips for orgasm control & recommended some of my vids to guide him through it. I explained that he needs to please his girlfriend sexually and that meant he should learn to last for as long as she is getting pleasure from his cock. I pointed out that a sexually satisfied girlfriend is one who is happy and more wiling to do what he likes, will likely nag less & everything will just run more smoothly in the relationship.

At the end of the session he was having trouble cumming from the foot job he requested but also confessed he jerked off just before our session because he was afraid he would cum too quickly and be embarrassed. He was rock hard though & very into it. I asked if he felt horny & frustrated, wanting an orgasm but not quite being able to reach it. He said yes. I told him that is how he’s probably been leaving his girlfriend feeling. He agreed I was probably right. I told him he was to start making efforts to be a better lover & to put his girlfriend’s pleasure before his own. I told him to remember this feeling of frustration and dissatisfaction the next time he’s making love with his girlfriend. I denied him an orgasm but I’m sure he jerked off as soon as he got home.

He gave me a generous tip at the end but the real reward for me was feeling like I may have helped a man become a better lover to please women.

So do you think he’ll be cured of his foot fetish affliction? I asked him to follow up with me in a couple weeks & let me know. *smirk*

Mistress T

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Step up your jerk off game!

Orgasms are FUN! So, I want you to have less of them:-)

Orgasms are FUN! So, I want you to have less of them:-)

I’ve been having awesome sex with a tantra guy recently who practices ‘not’ ejaculating. This is a part of the whole tantra thing, for guys anyway. Not me. I cum all I want…but I’m supposed to support him in not cumming. That’s certainly new for me…I’m REALLY good at making guys cum. Ha ha.

So I’ve been thinking about my fans & ‘edging’. I’ve blogged about this before & created vids designed to guide you through edging exercises. Bringing yourself close to orgasm, then backing off, building it up again, backing off & repeating several times until finally blowing your top. The result? A more intense orgasm & increased orgasm control which is helpful when you’re trying to please your lover sexually.

I’ve also read some interesting articles on the value of not coming for longer periods of time, days or even weeks. I won’t get into that now but will focus more on shorter-term orgasm control. Watching my vids is great during this process. Why? Because I want to sell you vids, obviously. Hey, I’m not running a charity here! Okay, seriously, watch whatever porn you want but you might find it easier to stick to me, feeling like we have a relationship & we’re on this journey together. You’ll know what to expect from me & will likely be able to control things better. If you search “orgasm control” in either my clips store or members site you’ll find a variety of vids appropriate for this exercise.

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This isn’t about abstinence. This isn’t about denying your sexual urges. This is about playing with your sexual energy and harnessing your sexual power. This is about making your jerk off adventures more interesting & fulfilling. This is about making you a better lover should the opportunity arise.

Here’s a quote from tantra guru Richard Ankhara:

“Don’t take it past 70% of the pleasure point, until you’re experienced. Keep breathing deeply, in through the nose, out through pursed lips. If you get too close, breathe out fast through your mouth, and suck the navel toward the spine pulling up the diaphragm. Visualize the sexual energy moving up from the pubic bone to either the heart or the third eye. Once you’ve been doing it for a few minutes, try clenching your pelvic floor muscles on your inhalation, then relaxing them during your exhalation.
Ta-da, that’s the fundamentals of sexual tantra for men.”

So, my darlings…here’s your homework assignment: practice edging & orgasm control. Pay close attention to how you feel. If you would like to share your experience with me feel free to email me or even better: make a comment here on my blog & share with others. Obviously, this is fantastic for those who struggle with premature ejaculation but really, the energy work is great for any man.

Happy hand-humping!

xo

Mistress T

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Sex

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I’ve been neglecting my blog a bit lately. To be honest, I’ve just been busy having a lot of great sex.

I recently acquired a new lover who has kept me occupied…really good sex & a nice connection, I like him…but sometimes when it rains, it pours. (For those who don’t know: I practice non-monogamy.)

A fella who I had had a flirtation with months ago invited me to a sex party on Saturday night. There would be a tantric workshop that I was interested in. We agreed ahead of time that we were both free to play with others so when we arrived & I met a very handsome young man I was excited at the prospects for the evening.

The group was given an introduction to Tantric sex. Then we did an exercise where we looked into each others eyes for a couple minutes, & into the eyes of everyone of the opposite sex. That was interesting, holding hands & looking into the eyes of every man at the party for 2-3 minutes at a time.

Then the tantra instructor gave a demonstration on ‘yoni massage‘. (He gave a woman a full body massage including her vagina, which led to her orgasm & ‘squirting’.)

After that we were free to do as we pleased so the fella I came with & I decided to enjoy the hot tub for a bit before starting to play.

This is where it got a little weird. I know, for most of you watching a man make a woman squirt at a party would already be weird but not so much for me. The weird part was when the host of the party came out to the hot tub & exclaimed that he was honored to be graced with the presence of the Goddess Mistress T.

Awkward.

You see, I wasn’t there as Mistress T. I was off the clock & I prefer to keep a low-profile. So I explained all of that & he was cool about it but when we went back inside I found out what had prompted this exclamation. Apparently the host was a big fan & had put one of my vids up on the big screen in his theater for the party guests to enjoy. Someone else recognized me (not him though!) & said that I was in the hot tub.

*sigh*

So anyway, we started to ‘play’ in the main room with everyone else & the hot guy from earlier was sitting near by watching. He was also a tantra practitioner which was intriguing.

I was enjoying being watched by him but I was slightly distracted by what was now being played on the big screen that people were commenting on. It was my friend Lexi Sindel fucking a guy with a huge strap on. I have been in several FemDom Empire vids so I kept worrying that I would pop up on the screen again.

We moved to another room where we continued & finished playing…the sex was great! Then the hot guy glided in & I asked him to join us.

Wow.

Round 2 was pretty epic…but would you expect anything less from a super sexy tantric practitioner? He touched me in ways that I’ve never been touched.

I got home after the sun was up & slept peacefully for a few hours before meeting a friend for brunch. For some reason I was still so frisky I called in my other new lover for Sunday night & did another marathon night of love making.

You would think that would be plenty. Why be greedy? Well, why not? So when the hot tantric practitioner contacted me Monday morning to see if I’d like to get together Monday night I just said yes. Especially since it included him making a delicious vegan dinner, singing & playing guitar for me & some pretty deep conversation. Oh, and hours of passionate sex, again, in some ways that I’ve never experienced before. We never stop learning, eh?

Okay, okay…but then that was enough. 3 different lovers, 3 epic nights of sex: I was finally ready to take a break, wave the white flag, tap out.

Sometimes it can be hard for people to reconcile the Mistress T you know from my vids & who I really am as a person outside of my job. That’s why I created this blog, for you to get to know me more intimately. I think it’s an important exercise to reduce my ‘carbon footprint’ making porn, by helping guys to see me as a real person, to not objectify me the way many women are objectified in porn.

In real life I’m actually a fair bit ‘hippie’. I’m interested in energy, connection & sexual spirituality. Maybe I’ll do a cuckold vid where my lover isn’t a well-hung black stud who fucks my brains out 6 ways from Sunday, but rather a guy really skilled at pleasuring women using his brain, energy & touch as much as his penis, a man I have amazing chemistry with…I shouldn’t imply they are mutually exclusive….but really fulfilling sex is actually about so much more than dick size. It can be harder to ‘see’ that stuff though & porn is a visual medium (which is why I continue to favor larger phallus’s for my scenes). Well, I’ll hope that at least my words reach a few of you through this blog.

xo

Mistress T

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The ups & ‘downs’ of filming with civilians

"Is that thing going to get hard?"

“Is that thing going to get hard?”

I have a lot of interesting stories about filming with fans, friends & regular folks. In case you didn’t know already: I don’t hire professional performers. I live in Vancouver, not LA, there aren’t even pro’s here to hire (that I know of).

Each guy has his own story, interests, quirks, etc. Some guys I end up filming with on a regular basis & they’re great. I like the authenticity I get from filming with civilians. Sometimes they kind of flop on the first go. This is one of those stories.

He applied like any other. He sounded good, his pics showed a decent enough figure & a big enough cock…although it was not fully erect. Sometimes it’s hard for guys to take good selfies, so I didn’t think much of it at the time.

He was visiting from another city. I suggested we go for dinner to get acquainted. Over dinner he spoke in length about another Mistress he had been seeing whom he was overly infatuated with. It seems he felt they were at a cross roads where clearer boundaries needed to be defined or they needed to take the relationship in a more personal direction. It sounded like he would only really be satisfied with a more personal direction.

*Insert groan here*

I hate situations like this. I’ve been there with clients & most of the Pro Dommes I know have been there too, in one way or another. Sometimes lines get blurry. If you’ve sessioned hours & hours with a regular client & you genuinely enjoy it & like them…the client can start to feel like the relationship is more personal than professional. They can start to resent paying by the hour. Sometimes clients & Dommes end up in real-life romantic relationships if the feelings are mutual. Rules get bent or broken. It can cause confusion.

I inserted that *groan* because I haven’t a clue what this guy’s Mistress is feeling. I have no idea if he’s a delusional & obsessed or if she has led him on maliciously…or if she is in love with him…I-have-no-idea. So it’s tricky for me to play the therapist when I have no idea what I’m really dealing with…and he very much wanted my advice & opinions. Awkward.

So we try to film a scene after dinner  (and after talking about his dilemma for a couple of hours). No surprise: he can’t get an erection. Not even a flinch. It is the softest penis I think I have ever felt. After a little while I ask if he thinks this is going to work…he suggests maybe if he tries himself to get it hard it might work. Sexy as hell, right? I ask if he’d like me to leave: he says yes!

So I find myself sitting in the next room while this guy is wanking himself thinking: it’s lucky I have a strong sense of self worth or it might be a bit of a blow to the ol’ ego to be asked to leave so a guy can get his dick hard. All hail Mistress T: erection destroyer!

I few minutes later I hear a weak “I think it’s hard!” & I pop my head in to see a quickly disappearing micro erection. Like a real erection but much softer.

I called it a wrap. He paid me well as an apology for wasting my time, confessing the whole thing was just an attempt to distract himself from the other Mistress.

And so it goes. Ya win some, you lose some. Fortunately I win way more often *smile*.

Best,
Mistress T

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England! (London, UK)

dress_bum_outMistress T in lingerie.Mistress T in stockings showing feet.

I’m planning my next trip to England & here’s the important info you need BEFORE you email me with any questions: you’re going to have to pay to apply.

That’s right. A $50 tribute is required before I’ll respond to your inquiries. (I give you lots of options to make the tribute).

Why? Because I’m a one-woman show. I do everything without admin assistance, including reading & responding personally to emails. It may not always be the best use of my time but I think fans should know when they email me they are communicating only with me. By requiring a small tribute to apply to see me in London I hope to cut back on the usual crushing volume & time-wasters…thus freeing up more time for those who deserve my attention!

I’ll answer a few basic questions here then give you the many easy options to pay before you email to apply:

#1. I will be in England within the next 3 months. I will have some time in London as well as outside of London.

#2. My private & social rate is high. You’ll need a generous budget. 50% deposit required if accepted.

#3. At this point I don’t think I’ll be needing any more film slaves but even if that is your wish you’ll still need to pay to apply with the $50 tribute.

#4. No intercourse, oral sex/nude face sitting or hard sports.

Ways to pay $50 tribute:

-Tribute button on my clips store: http://www.clips4sale.com/23869 (Clip cash card should work even if you don’t have a credit card)
-$50 worth of vids from my clips store: http://www.clips4sale.com/23869
-Get a premium membership to my site: http://www.MistressT.net
-$50 gift card from Amazon.com (sent to email address below)
-$50 worth of gifts from my Amazon wish list: http://www.amazon.com/registry/wishlist
If you only have PayPal this will work:
-$50 micro-loan through Kiva: http://www.mistresst.net/blog/uncategorized/loan-to-a-worthwile-cause-get-free-porn/

Or a gift card for my favorite spa (paypal):

http://www.mirajhammam.com/gift-certificates/

Lastly, if you must, mail cash. Email me to ask for the mailing address.

HOW TO APPLY:

Send an email to MsT@MistressT.net:

#1. With proof of the tribute.

#2. Introducing yourself & your interests. Include references if you have them.

You can stop reading now, that was the really crucial info…but here’s a little extra:

My ideal client is one who has read many of my blog entries & feels a connection to me as a person, not an object (not just a porn star)…and feels excited about getting to know me further in person. This client indeed worships me as Mistress T & has enthusiastically enjoyed many of my vids but again, also sees me as a real, multidimensional person. This client values my time, respects me & is a gentleman. He is open to letting me know him as well & hopes for our time together to be mutually enjoyable. Our rendezvous will likely have a social element to it, a walk, dining together, shopping or some other outing or entertainment: a chance to get acquainted. Our private time may include tease & denial with potential release by my hand, maybe foot or leg worship, with or without hosiery…maybe water sports or other kinky or humiliating games. Maybe a role-play, mental game or even a bit of pain…or a lot of pain: ballbusting or such. Whatever the specific activities it is about creating an experience together.

Best,
Mistress T

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Cartoon apology

So this kind of cool thing happened today: a guy emailed to ask me to release a certain vid for free. He said he was a big fan of the vids of mine he had watched for free. He didn’t mean to insult me, but like a lot of young men these days who have never paid for porn he really didn’t understand that what he was doing was wrong. Clueless, but not ill intentioned. So I sent him the link to my post about this sort of thing: http://www.mistresst.net/blog/my-personal-life/when-a-compliment-is-an-insult/

His response actually impressed me:

“So, when you sent me the link to your blog post, I read it and
understood why you were mad about me viewing free videos of you from
other sites. I also decided to read the rest of your blogs up to your
latest post (I’m so sorry about your loss).

The thought that was going through my mind after reading the posts
were, “This woman isn’t just some leather clad dominatrix on a camera.
She’s actually a very kind, funny, smart, caring woman. And you
disrespected her.”

I felt like crap. The way I was looking at it was that I like a lot of
indie movies and bands. And I would never pirate any of their work,
because they rely on that money because they’re not big productions.
And it’s also a way of me showing that I’m a true fan. Well, you’re
like that. You’re an indie production that I enjoy a lot, and I
insulted you because I wasn’t a true fan, because I was viewing your
vids on other sites, and basically taking away from you. So, for that
I am sorry.

The drawing I included in this email is my attempt at an apology gift.
I’m kind of an artist I guess.

So I decided maybe this was a good way to give you some good humor for
your day. I know a lotta my friends liked it when I drew em cartoon
style, so I hope maybe you will too. Sorry about 2 things in the
drawing, 1. The gimp’s pose, I’ve never drawn that pose before, so it
was new for me. 2. The line quality. I only have a cheap sharpie pen
to work with at the moment (being a recently graduated, unemployed 20
year old kinda sucks, especially since I can’t buy good art supplies
at the moment, lol).

So, case in point, I hope you enjoy the drawing. I made it with the
intention of it being more funny than pervy. And I hope you accept my
apology. You are not only a beautiful fetish filmmaker, but also a
wonderful person, and I know that now, and I’m sorry to have offended
you. When I get a job and start getting a steady income, I will start
paying to watch your full videos on your site like a real fan. :)”

mst

Best,
Mistress T

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Honoring Gaspman’s Memory

I loved Gaspman so much.

I loved Gaspman so much.

My very close friend, known to many as “Gaspman”, recently passed after an inspiring battle with cancer. He was days away from his 59th birthday.

The name “Gaspman” came from his hundreds of legendary facesitting scenes on Club Stiletto. He was also famous in the pony riding & shoulder riding world, known for his impressive strength & endurance.

He demonstrated that a man could gracefully submit to a woman while being extraordinarily strong, both physically & mentally. He was a gentleman with impeccable manners who truly worshiped women. He worshiped from a place of worthiness, not worthlessness, pampering & caring for women in a way that was endearing & respectful. He was like a warrior that could fiercely protect you in battle but then shower you with the most gentle kisses.

We worked together for years creating FemDom films. They were often ‘party shoots’ where we’d have some drinks and food between filming scenes and continue on for hours after filming was wrapped. We had SO much fun. He loved to entertain & socialize. He was charismatic and adventurous. He became very close friends, like family to me. He was always supportive and encouraging. A very positive influence in my life. Losing him has been one of the most painful things I’ve ever gone through.

In the FemDom fetish film world he leaves a legacy. He started making FemDom vids about 12 years ago before the technology was easy to use, before it was even as acceptable as it is now. He did it out of pure passion for the fetishes he loved, mainly shoulder riding/pony riding & ass worship…but he loved most anything to do with worshiping women. You’ll find him in hundreds of scenes happily worshiping many beautiful Goddesses.

He lived a full life…and this is important. In his 20′s he had been in a successful rock bank that played in front of thousands of adoring fans. After he had a successful and meaningful ‘vanilla’ career. He was an amazing son, brother, uncle, father, partner & friend. He loved to cook, especially meat and rich, delicious foods. He loved to have drinks with friends and in his younger rock n’ roll days I’m sure he enjoyed that lifestyle to the fullest too, if ya know what I mean? With that in mind I asked him near the end if he had known back then that his indulgent lifestyle may one day cause him to have a shorter lifespan if he would have changed anything? He said without hesitation: no. He lived an amazing life, several lives really. He lived fully, passionately, positively. He had FUN, he laughed, he brought joy & love to many….and he will be missed by many.

About a year ago I made this little video featuring him:

http://www.mistresst.net/freemovie/mystery-gaspmans-black-eye

At that time he had heroically won his first battle with cancer & had been doing well…but had just started to have some indications that maybe there was something else wrong.

He continued to fight bravely and was an inspiration. When he felt well enough I would come over & listen to music with him on his amazing sound system in his living room. This blog post about music appreciation was about him:

http://www.mistresst.net/blog/my-personal-life/music-appreciation-moment/

When he wasn’t feeling well enough I’d just lay in bed with him watching TV. Even on those days, when his energy was low he was brimming over with positivity.

The last day I saw him was a great day. We had cake & champagne for a family birthday. He hadn’t had a drink in a very very long time so it was especially indulgent for him. We laughed & talked as if everything was fine. I’m glad that that is my last memory of him. Him doing what he always enjoyed so much: eating & drinking with loved ones. The simple things in life, right?

Best,
Mistress T

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Lucky Guy

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When I tweet pics of me with guys/slaves the most common comment I get is “Lucky guy” followed by “Wish I was him/wish it was me”.

So who are these lucky guys and where do they come from? Unlike the guys you see in a lot of mainstream porn, 99% of my guys are not professional performers. I live in Vancouver, Canada. We don’t have a porn scene here so there are no professionals (that I know of) to hire even if I wanted to. While traveling I have had the opportunity to work with a few pro’s. Exactly 3 I think: Shane Diesel, Wolf Hudson & Deviant Kade. Slave Wade might be considered a pro by now too?

When I started making my own vids I had a partner. The first couple of years he was the only guy I filmed sex scenes with. Those who have been watching my stuff for more than 5 years probably know who I’m talking about. After we went our separate ways I started filming with others.

Each one has their own unique story. Some I’ve only filmed with once or a few times, for a variety of reasons. Perhaps we were only in the same place at the same time briefly, like a guy from out of town visiting. Sometimes I just don’t ‘click’ with someone enough to want to work with them anymore.

The ones that have stuck around earn nicknames and are close to my heart. The Gladiator, The Fire Hose Guy, Superman, The Young Fella, Eager Beaver, etc.

Most tend to be fans who simply offer themselves to be used for filming. Usually they don’t show their face which is fine with me. I think it’s easier for the viewer to imagine it’s him if he isn’t distracted by a face. They need to keep their anonymity. They all have lives. One of them sneaks out of the office to film with me & always shows up in a sharp suit, perfectly coiffed. He’s so beautiful I wish my fans could see more of him than just his cock, but alas…

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Another one is a personal friend I’ve had for many years. He comes & goes. When he’s in a relationship we don’t film. When things don’t work out he comes back.

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I found one fella while on vacation in Mexico. He was American & came to Vancouver to film with me several times over the next couple of years.

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Some guys get shared or passed around among the other Vancouver Dommes. We’re a small, close community.

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When I’m in England I get use of the English Mansion slaves or those who belong to Nikki Whiplash.

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A more unique story is of the guy I accidentally found through one of those adult dating sites. I hadn’t been on it in over a year but I logged in to get the profile of someone impersonating me removed. While I was waiting for the admin to message me back another message came in & I looked at it. He had a nice cock so I asked if he’d like to be in my vids. He ended up being a wonderful film guy.

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I prefer the ones who come regularly. I enjoy getting to know them & figuring out how to control their orgasms. I like pushing boundaries & introducing them to new things. We often sit around chatting over tea before or after filming which is also nice for me. Sometimes we go for a bite to eat or hang out socially. Some of them are lovers before they are in my films…sometimes they become my personal fuck toys off camera after. Some of them serve me in a more ‘slave’ way personally.

So I would say that they all consider themselves to be as lucky as you think they are. I wouldn’t keep anyone around who isn’t appreciative. I have more guys to film with than I need. I also consider myself lucky. I love what I do & a big part of that is liking those who I do intimate scenes with.

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Best,
Mistress T

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