Do I remind you of anyone?

Mistress T in heels and mini skirt.

Girl next door?

Over the years I’ve had a lot of guys tell me that I remind them of someone from their real lives. I’m not sure how common this is for sex workers/Pro Dommes/escorts, etc.?

Often it’s an ex girlfriend or a love interest from their past. There is an element of nostalgia in these encounters. They sometimes fantasize that they are reuniting with a grown up version of a teenage love from 20 years ago or so. In one situation I was able to help a guy work through some issues he had had over a relationship that didn’t end well. By playing the role of this woman I could give a different perspective of events, how she may have felt, etc.

I’ve had at least a couple of guys say that I look similar to their current wives. One fella liked to be cuckolded by me & imagine that I was his wife. He wanted so badly to see his wife fuck other men but she wasn’t into it. He lived out those fantasies with me.

Imagine I'm your wife...getting fucked by another man...

Imagine I’m your wife…getting fucked by another man…

I’ve had guys say that I remind them of their aunt, mom or mothers friend. Someone they had a crush on when they were younger. Sometimes a school teacher or someone in an authoritative position. We role play fantasies that would have been too taboo to play out otherwise.

Mistress T in a business suit.

Did you do your homework???

Men are very visual & I understand they often like a certain ‘look’. I’ve kept basically the same hair style & haven’t gotten tattoos & piercings like a lot of my friends. Partly because of my job, for those who fantasize I’m a 1940′s pin-up model or Hollywood actress. Or to make it easier for those who are pretending I’m someone else. I don’t mind though. I like my look.

I find it fascinating that men can imagine that I am someone else, someone who meant or means something special to them. That I can help them fulfill fantasies or work through unresolved issues. This is one of the more interesting parts of my work.

Do I remind you of someone? Or are you a woman in a similar line of work who gets told by a lot of men that you remind them of someone? Feel free to share in the comments!

Best,
Mistress T

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Thank you England! (Summer 2015)

I returned from England a few weeks ago. I’ve been enjoying the sunny weather in Vancouver so have been slower than usual with a trip recap blog.

It was a great trip, as always. It was wonderful to see so many friends & familiar faces. I filmed some awesome content, went to the Glastonbury festival, spent some extra time in central London this time…indulged in scones with jam & clotted cream (yum!).

I even got to spend some time with Alexandra Snow but I’ll do a separate blog post on that in the next week.

Here’s a fun little behind-the-scenes vid I made with Sidonia von Bork & Nikki Whiplash.

Sidonia von Bork, Mistress T & Nikki Whiplash. Click the link below to go to the FREE vid!

Sidonia von Bork, Mistress T & Nikki Whiplash. Click the link below to go to the FREE vid!

Click to see the free vid: http://www.mistresst.net/freemovie/vlog-summer-2015-sidonia-von-bork-nikki-whiplash

Here’s a vid we filmed that day: “Prisoners Punishing Ballbusting”:

Click to go the vid: http://clips4sale.com/23869/13973167

"Prisoners Punishing Ballbusting" With Nikki Whiplash & myself, Mistress T. http://clips4sale.com/23869/13973167

“Prisoners Punishing Ballbusting” With Nikki Whiplash & myself, Mistress T.
http://clips4sale.com/23869/13973167

I’m not sure when my next trip to England will be (so please don’t ask, just keep an eye on my blog for travel announcements). I am considering different travel plans this fall & winter, travel that may or may not involve work. I’m considering Africa, Thailand, Costa Rica or warm parts of the US. I’m weighing my options & will announce travel plans if there will be opportunities for me to meet fans. If you live in a place that’s warm November-April and you want me to visit you (& you have a generous budget!), email me to discuss: MsT@MistressT.net
Best,
Mistress T

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Film Slave Application (Updated)

I have written posts like this before but considering the recent flood of applications I’ve decided to write a new one, with basically the same info. My previous post on this topic: http://www.mistresst.net/blog/fetish-focus/film-slave-application/

#1. READ this whole post carefully BEFORE you email me asking to meet me or to be in my films. If you ask to be in my films without providing all the required info I will redirect you back here. Then you’ll be ignored if you still haven’t applied properly.

#2. LOCATION is the most important factor! If you are not in Vancouver & you are not willing/able to come to Vancouver (within the next couple of months) chances are we will NOT be able to film together. I rarely film elsewhere these days. Sometimes in England but I have enough reliable film slaves there already. So say “I am available to film in Vancouver on the following dates…”

NOTE: Do not ask me if I happen to be coming to your city to film: I’m not. I am NOT filming anywhere else in the foreseeable future. If you can’t come to me you’ll need a very generous budget to bring me to you. Like at least a few thousand bucks.

#3. If you are in Vancouver or willing to come here email me pics (naked torso with erect penis) AND a list of what you’re willing to do on film.  Again: I need a clear pic of your body & dick, I shoot video, it’s a visual medium…and I need to know what you’re into doing on film.

NOTE: I am most interested in:

-big dicks that shoot big loads without too much difficulty for hand job vids

-guys for forced bi cock sucking vids, suckers & suckees

-ballbusting guys

-cross-dressing/sissy/trannie types

-guys who can take very large strap-on’s

-small-dicked cuckolds who will suck cock & eat cum (I’m not as much a fan of gimp-hooded cucks in domestic scenes but will consider it if you are a really good cuckold in other ways, easy to work with, etc. I prefer cuckolds to show their face. Age & body type doesn’t matter so much for cuckolds.)

I am NOT interested in dealing with guys with the wrong attitudes. Your role as a film slave is to assist me in creating quality content. This is not a free session. This is not about me servicing your dick. You will have fun, no doubt, but it’s about me & my needs first. Creepy or annoying behavior will not be tolerated. Sending dozens of emails back & forth to organize a shoot will not be tolerated. Communicate clearly but briefly. Show me that you respect my time. I will work with those who are easiest & the most pleasurable to deal with. I am running a business after all, this isn’t Tinder or OK Cupid.

#4. A model release will need to be signed & a photo of you holding your photo ID next to your face will be taken (for age verification, legally you must be over 18 but I rarely work with anyone under 21.) This information is kept secure & would only be shown to the proper authorities if legally mandated. So in other words, most likely never.

#5. Showing your face?: In 95% of my scenes I don’t care if your face is shown. You’ll see most of my vids the guy is unidentifiable. If you’re willing to show your face it gives me more flexibility but it’s certainly not a deal breaker for me.

#6. I don’t pay film slaves. I have plenty of volunteers. I will require you to show you are serious in one of the following ways:

- be a member or become a member of my site (send me your username) to show that you support my work & that you’ve taken some time to research the kinds of vids you want to appear in.

Other ways to pay $50 tribute:

-E-transfer to my email address works from one major Canadian Bank to another. (If you’re that hard up for money I’ll give you your $50 back when you show up for filming.)

-Tribute button on my clips store: http://www.clips4sale.com/23869 (Clip cash card should work even if you don’t have a credit card)
-$50 worth of vids from my clips store: http://www.clips4sale.com/23869
-$50 gift card from Amazon.com (sent to email address below)
-$50 worth of gifts from my Amazon wish list: http://www.amazon.com/registry/wishlist

If discretion is important and/or you only have PayPal this will work (all your wife will see is that you gave money to charity, it still tells me you are serious enough):
-$50 micro-loan through Kiva: http://www.mistresst.net/blog/uncategorized/loan-to-a-worthwile-cause-get-free-porn/

Or a gift card for my favorite spa (paypal):

http://www.mirajhammam.com/gift-certificates/

Email PICS, what you can be used for on film & dates you’re available in Vancouver, plus proof you are serious to: MsT@MistressT.net

Best,
Mistress T

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Even more FREE porn for doing a good thing!

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Yeah, I know it’s upside down. But fuck it. The pic has nothing to do with this post anyway.

In November 2014 I launched my “feel-good” campaign of giving free access to my members site to those who helped a great cause. In the last 7 months dozens of fans have participated & it seriously warms the cockles of my heart.

I was thinking about it yesterday, the beauty of it. That there are hard-working people in poor countries able to start businesses to support their families & communities that wouldn’t have had the opportunity to do so without the generosity of my masturbating fans. That by my mico-loaning fans blowing their goo to my vids they are also helping the world. Like actually helping in a very clear way.

That's how good that makes me feel..."double fucking rainbow at Burning Man" good. That's SUPER good.

That’s how good that makes me feel…”double fucking rainbow at Burning Man” good. That’s SUPER good.

So I decided to double-down. For the next couple of months what ever amount you loan I will give you DOUBLE the equivalent free time on my site. For example, if you loan $50 I’ll give you 2 months of premium access rather than 1 month. If you loan $100 I’ll give you 4 months. Awesome, right? And remember: this is a LOAN. So if you don’t feel like you can afford to pay for porn just LOAN the money & you’ll get it back at some point. Free porn AND you get to feel good about doing something to help someone. Holy fuck, right?

Now that last part is important for those of you who support pirated content which you know damn well is bad, bad for me & all producers of content. I would rather fucking give you my content for free directly from my awesome site than have you get it off those crappy pirate sites. So cut that shit out, do something good: get rewarded. Everyone wins…except those dirt bag pirates:-)

Find all the details on my original post about the Kiva Micro-loan for free porn: http://www.mistresst.net/blog/uncategorized/loan-to-a-worthwile-cause-get-free-porn/

Best,
Mistress T

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Does Your Family Know What You Do???

Me in flannel PJ's

Me in flannel PJ’s

For today’s un-sexy but intimate blog post I answer a recent question from a fan (& the frequent question of “Does your family know what you do?”):

“Since you have spoken a bit about your personal life, I just wondered how a mistress is perceived in her immediate family ? How do parents, cousins, siblings, neighbors look at you? Is there awe/fear/bemusement/curiosity/disgust/quiet acceptance?
At family functions are you a celebrity or is there finger pointing. Sorry if i am intrusive but i have always wondered how normal is life for you outside the lifestyle. Sometimes i wonder how my mom or close family would react if i told her/the that i had paid a woman to be able to drink her pee. Wonder how your mom reacted the first time you told her you humiliated a strange man into similar deeds. Just curious since you are a larger than life FemDom celebrity.”

From my person interaction with women in the adult industry I would say that everyone has their own story. So I won’t speak in generalities I will simply answer for me.

My family has some idea of what I do. Most of them don’t understand exactly what I do, they haven’t seen my website & I don’t spell out specific graphic details, but they know it has something to do with sex/porn/being a Dominatrix. Most of them aren’t interested in knowing more. They don’t ask a lot of questions, in some cases because it would just be awkward for them, in other cases because they have too much respect for me to do anything that might make me uncomfortable.

“Respect”? Does that surprise some of you? It’s all about perspective. My family doesn’t see a harlot when they look at me, they see the grown up version of a good girl with a bit of a wild side. They see a woman in her late 30′s who looks great, who has never had a substance abuse problem, never had a gambling problem, never been in an abusive relationship, hasn’t had an unwanted pregnancy, hasn’t been in trouble with the law, has never asked them for money, etc. They see an adult woman who has traveled the world, who is financially secure, who is happy, healthy & living her life on her terms.

In their words: “How can we find fault in how you decide to lead your life?” They respect me & my personal choices.

My family doesn’t see ‘my job’ when they look at me. They ask questions about my travels, about my life in Vancouver…they ask about my love life, they ask if I want kids, etc. They don’t treat me like a celebrity because frankly, the idea of me being a celebrity wouldn’t have occurred to them. They probably don’t even know there are ‘celebrities’ in the kind of work I do.

In other circles though I am sometimes uncomfortably treated as a celebrity. At some fetish functions or meeting people in the kink community. I quickly try to get people to see me as a regular person (with an unusual job). I try to put people at ease if they seem intimidated or in awe of me. I’m really uncomfortable with that in regular social situations. It can happen if someone else has built me up, told them “Mistress T” will be here, “she’s a famous fetish porn star” or if it’s a guy who has run across my vids on the internet & can’t believe he’s meeting me in the flesh. Argh.

In normal social situations I’m goofy, funny, an active listener, curious about other people, empathetic…the last thing I want is to be put on a pedestal or pseudo stage and asked a thousand questions about my work. I prefer to listen than talk about myself.

As for this part of the question: “Sometimes i wonder how my mom or close family would react if i told her/the that i had paid a woman to be able to drink her pee.”

Your family probably doesn’t want to know if you’ve paid a woman to do anything sexual to you. They probably don’t want you to know what they do sexually in private either. Neither of you care to know the graphic details of each others sex lives.

Privacy is becoming a luxury from the past. The internet is changing this & as more people are accidentally exposed people are realizing that there are more people into ‘weird’ things than ‘normal’. Society is becoming less judgmental & more accepting. But most people, especially family members, are learning information they would rather just not know.

Feel free to ask other questions in the comments area & I’ll address them.

Cheers,

Mistress T

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The Joy of NOT Fucking Me.

Mistress T in Honeymoon Cuckolding.

Is that a close enough look cuck?

Does the title sound a bit strange to you? If so you might be one of the many men (or women?) who would really like to fuck me. Maybe you even fantasize about actually penetrating me or cumming inside of me?

Well, if you weren’t a few minutes ago you probably are now.

There is a whole other world though…men who get off on being denied sexually, being teased or ‘cuckolded’. Sometimes humiliation is part of it, being told they’re not worthy. Others just seem to have a frustration fetish. Some don’t even want to cum, they want total orgasm denial. Chastity can be a part of that.

Why? Why is anyone into anything they’re into?

Chastity!

You won’t be fucking me or cumming locked up in your cage!

I’m very amused by these scenario’s. I get session requests (in person & online) & custom vid requests where guys just want me to tease them with what they can’t have. Describe the sex acts they’ll never have with me, the intimate pleasures they’ll never experience. One of my favorite things to do is to get quite romantic, sensually intimate, without actually doing much of anything. Grazing my nails & fingertips along their skin & through their hair, breathing softly on their neck, moaning quietly in their ear, pressing myself against them so gently they almost don’t register the pressure…

Sweet seduction followed by…

Nothing really. Maybe a little giggle at their squirming & discomfort. A bright smile at their frustration.

Nude Mistress T & a slave.

So close yet so far…

It makes me feel powerful, I admit. Having a man want me so badly. To have his body & cock screaming to do what is supposed to be ‘natural’. To go against nature & to leave him humping the air pathetically.

That might be why I enjoy cuckolding so much. I get to feed my desire to deny a man sex with me while at the same time getting my sexual needs met by another. My cake & eat it too.

I love to say “no”. And I love to say “yes”.

Best,
Mistress T

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A Slippery Slope…

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I had a private session recently with a guy who had found himself on a slippery slope of perversion. He was in his mid 20′s and was somewhat inexperienced sexually. He had stumbled across my vids randomly on the internet and was happy to learn we lived in the same city.

He had always liked women’s feet. Summer brought lots of pretty feet in flip flops & strappy sandals. He started looking for foot vids on the internet to masturbate to. He had no idea how to actually live out his fantasy. He even had a girlfriend but he was too shy to say anything to her about his interest in feet. So he booked a session with me.

He had obviously done his research since his initial email was perfectly communicated, to the point with nice manners. He arrived on time & even brought thoughtful gifts! He was so nervous that I could see his hands shaking as he set down the money.

We chatted for a bit. I tried to put him at ease. I didn’t need a guy dropping from a heart attack. That’s lousy for business.

He explained that he hoped this session would break him free of his fetish. He hoped that if he lived it out, actually worshiped a woman’s feet that he would “get it out of his system” and move on. I just smiled sweetly and tried not to laugh.

We spent a lot of time with me sitting on his tummy with my feet on his face. I like sitting on guys and he was curious about “human furniture” too. We discussed his sex life with his girlfriend. I gave some suggestions on how he could attempt to introduce foot worship gently to her, or at least test the waters to see if she would be receptive:

- offer foot rubs when her feet might be sore, then be good at rubbing them, go slow & carefully.

- have a bath together and get into the position where they are facing each other & her feet are on his chest…then give her toes a little kiss, see how she responds…maybe start to lick and suck her toes gently.

- during intercourse get into the position where she’s laying down with her feet up on his shoulders (he should be upright so their bodies are at 90 degrees, not her bent in half) and during the heat of the moment bring her foot to his lips and sensually kiss & lick a little to see how she reacts.

He appreciate these tips and in the course of conversation mentioned that sometimes he doesn’t last very long during intercourse. So I gave him some tips for orgasm control & recommended some of my vids to guide him through it. I explained that he needs to please his girlfriend sexually and that meant he should learn to last for as long as she is getting pleasure from his cock. I pointed out that a sexually satisfied girlfriend is one who is happy and more wiling to do what he likes, will likely nag less & everything will just run more smoothly in the relationship.

At the end of the session he was having trouble cumming from the foot job he requested but also confessed he jerked off just before our session because he was afraid he would cum too quickly and be embarrassed. He was rock hard though & very into it. I asked if he felt horny & frustrated, wanting an orgasm but not quite being able to reach it. He said yes. I told him that is how he’s probably been leaving his girlfriend feeling. He agreed I was probably right. I told him he was to start making efforts to be a better lover & to put his girlfriend’s pleasure before his own. I told him to remember this feeling of frustration and dissatisfaction the next time he’s making love with his girlfriend. I denied him an orgasm but I’m sure he jerked off as soon as he got home.

He gave me a generous tip at the end but the real reward for me was feeling like I may have helped a man become a better lover to please women.

So do you think he’ll be cured of his foot fetish affliction? I asked him to follow up with me in a couple weeks & let me know. *smirk*

Mistress T

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Step up your jerk off game!

Orgasms are FUN! So, I want you to have less of them:-)

Orgasms are FUN! So, I want you to have less of them:-)

I’ve been having awesome sex with a tantra guy recently who practices ‘not’ ejaculating. This is a part of the whole tantra thing, for guys anyway. Not me. I cum all I want…but I’m supposed to support him in not cumming. That’s certainly new for me…I’m REALLY good at making guys cum. Ha ha.

So I’ve been thinking about my fans & ‘edging’. I’ve blogged about this before & created vids designed to guide you through edging exercises. Bringing yourself close to orgasm, then backing off, building it up again, backing off & repeating several times until finally blowing your top. The result? A more intense orgasm & increased orgasm control which is helpful when you’re trying to please your lover sexually.

I’ve also read some interesting articles on the value of not coming for longer periods of time, days or even weeks. I won’t get into that now but will focus more on shorter-term orgasm control. Watching my vids is great during this process. Why? Because I want to sell you vids, obviously. Hey, I’m not running a charity here! Okay, seriously, watch whatever porn you want but you might find it easier to stick to me, feeling like we have a relationship & we’re on this journey together. You’ll know what to expect from me & will likely be able to control things better. If you search “orgasm control” in either my clips store or members site you’ll find a variety of vids appropriate for this exercise.

Clips store: clips4sale.com/23869

Members site: MistressT.net

This isn’t about abstinence. This isn’t about denying your sexual urges. This is about playing with your sexual energy and harnessing your sexual power. This is about making your jerk off adventures more interesting & fulfilling. This is about making you a better lover should the opportunity arise.

Here’s a quote from tantra guru Richard Ankhara:

“Don’t take it past 70% of the pleasure point, until you’re experienced. Keep breathing deeply, in through the nose, out through pursed lips. If you get too close, breathe out fast through your mouth, and suck the navel toward the spine pulling up the diaphragm. Visualize the sexual energy moving up from the pubic bone to either the heart or the third eye. Once you’ve been doing it for a few minutes, try clenching your pelvic floor muscles on your inhalation, then relaxing them during your exhalation.
Ta-da, that’s the fundamentals of sexual tantra for men.”

So, my darlings…here’s your homework assignment: practice edging & orgasm control. Pay close attention to how you feel. If you would like to share your experience with me feel free to email me or even better: make a comment here on my blog & share with others. Obviously, this is fantastic for those who struggle with premature ejaculation but really, the energy work is great for any man.

Happy hand-humping!

xo

Mistress T

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Sex

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I’ve been neglecting my blog a bit lately. To be honest, I’ve just been busy having a lot of great sex.

I recently acquired a new lover who has kept me occupied…really good sex & a nice connection, I like him…but sometimes when it rains, it pours. (For those who don’t know: I practice non-monogamy.)

A fella who I had had a flirtation with months ago invited me to a sex party on Saturday night. There would be a tantric workshop that I was interested in. We agreed ahead of time that we were both free to play with others so when we arrived & I met a very handsome young man I was excited at the prospects for the evening.

The group was given an introduction to Tantric sex. Then we did an exercise where we looked into each others eyes for a couple minutes, & into the eyes of everyone of the opposite sex. That was interesting, holding hands & looking into the eyes of every man at the party for 2-3 minutes at a time.

Then the tantra instructor gave a demonstration on ‘yoni massage‘. (He gave a woman a full body massage including her vagina, which led to her orgasm & ‘squirting’.)

After that we were free to do as we pleased so the fella I came with & I decided to enjoy the hot tub for a bit before starting to play.

This is where it got a little weird. I know, for most of you watching a man make a woman squirt at a party would already be weird but not so much for me. The weird part was when the host of the party came out to the hot tub & exclaimed that he was honored to be graced with the presence of the Goddess Mistress T.

Awkward.

You see, I wasn’t there as Mistress T. I was off the clock & I prefer to keep a low-profile. So I explained all of that & he was cool about it but when we went back inside I found out what had prompted this exclamation. Apparently the host was a big fan & had put one of my vids up on the big screen in his theater for the party guests to enjoy. Someone else recognized me (not him though!) & said that I was in the hot tub.

*sigh*

So anyway, we started to ‘play’ in the main room with everyone else & the hot guy from earlier was sitting near by watching. He was also a tantra practitioner which was intriguing.

I was enjoying being watched by him but I was slightly distracted by what was now being played on the big screen that people were commenting on. It was my friend Lexi Sindel fucking a guy with a huge strap on. I have been in several FemDom Empire vids so I kept worrying that I would pop up on the screen again.

We moved to another room where we continued & finished playing…the sex was great! Then the hot guy glided in & I asked him to join us.

Wow.

Round 2 was pretty epic…but would you expect anything less from a super sexy tantric practitioner? He touched me in ways that I’ve never been touched.

I got home after the sun was up & slept peacefully for a few hours before meeting a friend for brunch. For some reason I was still so frisky I called in my other new lover for Sunday night & did another marathon night of love making.

You would think that would be plenty. Why be greedy? Well, why not? So when the hot tantric practitioner contacted me Monday morning to see if I’d like to get together Monday night I just said yes. Especially since it included him making a delicious vegan dinner, singing & playing guitar for me & some pretty deep conversation. Oh, and hours of passionate sex, again, in some ways that I’ve never experienced before. We never stop learning, eh?

Okay, okay…but then that was enough. 3 different lovers, 3 epic nights of sex: I was finally ready to take a break, wave the white flag, tap out.

Sometimes it can be hard for people to reconcile the Mistress T you know from my vids & who I really am as a person outside of my job. That’s why I created this blog, for you to get to know me more intimately. I think it’s an important exercise to reduce my ‘carbon footprint’ making porn, by helping guys to see me as a real person, to not objectify me the way many women are objectified in porn.

In real life I’m actually a fair bit ‘hippie’. I’m interested in energy, connection & sexual spirituality. Maybe I’ll do a cuckold vid where my lover isn’t a well-hung black stud who fucks my brains out 6 ways from Sunday, but rather a guy really skilled at pleasuring women using his brain, energy & touch as much as his penis, a man I have amazing chemistry with…I shouldn’t imply they are mutually exclusive….but really fulfilling sex is actually about so much more than dick size. It can be harder to ‘see’ that stuff though & porn is a visual medium (which is why I continue to favor larger phallus’s for my scenes). Well, I’ll hope that at least my words reach a few of you through this blog.

xo

Mistress T

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The ups & ‘downs’ of filming with civilians

"Is that thing going to get hard?"

“Is that thing going to get hard?”

I have a lot of interesting stories about filming with fans, friends & regular folks. In case you didn’t know already: I don’t hire professional performers. I live in Vancouver, not LA, there aren’t even pro’s here to hire (that I know of).

Each guy has his own story, interests, quirks, etc. Some guys I end up filming with on a regular basis & they’re great. I like the authenticity I get from filming with civilians. Sometimes they kind of flop on the first go. This is one of those stories.

He applied like any other. He sounded good, his pics showed a decent enough figure & a big enough cock…although it was not fully erect. Sometimes it’s hard for guys to take good selfies, so I didn’t think much of it at the time.

He was visiting from another city. I suggested we go for dinner to get acquainted. Over dinner he spoke in length about another Mistress he had been seeing whom he was overly infatuated with. It seems he felt they were at a cross roads where clearer boundaries needed to be defined or they needed to take the relationship in a more personal direction. It sounded like he would only really be satisfied with a more personal direction.

*Insert groan here*

I hate situations like this. I’ve been there with clients & most of the Pro Dommes I know have been there too, in one way or another. Sometimes lines get blurry. If you’ve sessioned hours & hours with a regular client & you genuinely enjoy it & like them…the client can start to feel like the relationship is more personal than professional. They can start to resent paying by the hour. Sometimes clients & Dommes end up in real-life romantic relationships if the feelings are mutual. Rules get bent or broken. It can cause confusion.

I inserted that *groan* because I haven’t a clue what this guy’s Mistress is feeling. I have no idea if he’s a delusional & obsessed or if she has led him on maliciously…or if she is in love with him…I-have-no-idea. So it’s tricky for me to play the therapist when I have no idea what I’m really dealing with…and he very much wanted my advice & opinions. Awkward.

So we try to film a scene after dinner  (and after talking about his dilemma for a couple of hours). No surprise: he can’t get an erection. Not even a flinch. It is the softest penis I think I have ever felt. After a little while I ask if he thinks this is going to work…he suggests maybe if he tries himself to get it hard it might work. Sexy as hell, right? I ask if he’d like me to leave: he says yes!

So I find myself sitting in the next room while this guy is wanking himself thinking: it’s lucky I have a strong sense of self worth or it might be a bit of a blow to the ol’ ego to be asked to leave so a guy can get his dick hard. All hail Mistress T: erection destroyer!

I few minutes later I hear a weak “I think it’s hard!” & I pop my head in to see a quickly disappearing micro erection. Like a real erection but much softer.

I called it a wrap. He paid me well as an apology for wasting my time, confessing the whole thing was just an attempt to distract himself from the other Mistress.

And so it goes. Ya win some, you lose some. Fortunately I win way more often *smile*.

Best,
Mistress T

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