The desperate imbalance on Ashley Madison

That wedding ring carries SO much meaning...

That wedding ring carries SO much meaning…

Another blog post inspired by an article I just read…this one about the incredibly few real women that were on the “Ashley Madison” dating site:

http://gizmodo.com/almost-none-of-the-women-in-the-ashley-madison-database-1725558944

For those who missed the whole “Ashley Madison” scandal recently, it was a dating site specifically for married people who were trying to cheat on their partners..& it was hacked, exposing a whole lot of guys. Uh-oh.

Side note: If you want to keep your online activity secret be sure to use a unique email address for that purpose only, and cover your tracks.

This article went into technical detail about their investigation into how many of the female profiles were completely fake. Fake, as in created by staff at Ashley Madison. Millions of desperate, horny men were active on this site, seeking a play partner outside of their marriage…viewing profiles, sending messages & checking their inboxes for responses that never, ever came. The site charged these men, even charged them to have their accounts deleted! (Then didn’t even delete their information).

These guys were spending money & time trying to meet a woman or women who wanted to have sex with a married man. To fulfill his sexual fantasies with…when it would have just been simpler to pay a professional who would deliver. There’s integrity in just paying to have your fantasy fulfilled. A clear transaction folks.

Did all these guys really believe that thousands of women were on a DATING site hoping to have a fling with a married guy? Wow. Just, wow.

But the site marketed themselves like that. It sold millions of horny men that fantasy.

I’m also in the business of selling fantasies. But surely most guys understand that? What are the odds that I could be everything & every role I play in the wide variety of vids that I create? In the last few years I have been a therapist, a high-powered boss, a spy, a nun, a teacher, a MILF, a GILF, a prison guard…a Dominatrix who trains sissy sluts, who fucks asses, who encourages guys to suck cock, who loves boot worship, foot worship, ball busting, hurting & humiliating guys 100 different ways, a cuckoldress who sometimes keeps you in chastity, more often tells you to jerk off while watching me with other men…a cuckoldress who claims to love black cock one day & the next tells black men they’ll never be worthy to fuck me…there have been a few more contradictions over the years & dare I say I could even be called a hypocrite…IF you took everything I said & did as the gospel truth.

I’ve digressed a little from the theme of this post…which is really a harsh illustration of the massive imbalance in this world of men’s & women’s desires. There are a lot more (like waaaaay more) married men hoping to have an affair then there are women hoping to have an affair with a married man. There are way more men hoping to live out submissive fantasies with Dominant women then there are women who are eager to peg a guy, piss on a guy, spank him, dress him up in lingerie, tie him up & edge his cock for hours, etc.

This is why men pay women for these services & why women pretty rarely pay for sexual services from men. There is a massive imbalance.

You could get all butt hurt about this or you could look at it this way: it’s really nice when someone cooks for us. It happens sometimes. Friends or family will invite us over for dinner & serve us a nice meal. And we appreciate it when it happens. But most of the time we need to cook for ourselves or pay for someone to prepare it for us (restaurants). We don’t bitch every day about the lack of people interested in cooking for us for free. Right? Well, it’s basically the same for sex in a lot of cases.

In life, your attitude often determines your level of happiness. If you’re bummed all the time about not finding the perfect women to fulfill your fantasies (for free/in real life) then it’s your attitude that needs to be adjusted. Use vids, your imagination, cam shows or in person sessions while keeping an eye out for your unicorn in real life. Accept that the odds are not in your favor & find pleasure in other parts of your life. Desperation & depression will only lead to stupid decisions, like the many men on the Ashley Madison site.

Good luck!

Best,
Mistress T

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Sex Party for the Disabled

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I just read this Vice article covering a sex party in Toronto for the disabled:  http://www.vice.com/en_ca/read/an-inside-look-from-the-toronto-club-that-hosted-a-sex-party-for-the-disabled?utm_source=vicefbca

In my years in the fetish scene & as a sex worker I’ve encountered a fair number of sexually adventurous and/or kinky “other-abled” people. The brain is the biggest sex organ, so even if someone is in a wheel chair, is down a limb, has coordination issues from some medical condition, is visually impaired or something else doesn’t mean that they’re not sexually healthy, curious, adventurous or active.

The article also reminded me of the movie “The Sessions” where a man in an iron lung who wishes to lose his virginity contacts a professional sex surrogate with the help of his therapist and priest: http://www.imdb.com/title/tt1866249/

It was a fantastic movie. Very well done.

My experiences with other-abled people have made me more accepting & open-minded.

There was the foot fetishist is a wheel chair who in the middle of our session needed to empty his bladder. In the position we were in it was just easier for me to fetch his pee jug for him. As I was emptying the jug into the toilet for him I noticed how I felt more like a nurse or caregiver than a Dominatrix in that moment. But it was the practical thing to do.

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Another very sweet client was in such a way that he couldn’t really reach his own penis. He had a caregiver to wash him but you can imagine how he looked forward to our sessions…those rare orgasms were intense & therapeutic.

I’ve had quite a few fans on web cam who have mobility issues. The web cam sessions gave them excitement & interaction.

I even have a story from my teens, long before I was Mistress T, when I spent the night with a friend who was paralyzed from the waist down. He was so happy to just cuddle & give me pleasure, to have the intimate human contact even though he couldn’t have intercourse. I didn’t do it because I felt sorry for him…it was just a casual thing, we weren’t dating, but I was attracted to him. Since the focus was pretty much all on my pleasure it was a uniquely satisfying experience. I confess, I’ve often looked at attractive men in wheel chairs & wondered if they’d be extra skilled at pleasing a woman with their mouths & hands. The way a blind person has better hearing.

I’m sure disabled people want to be liked for who they are despite their disability, rather than “because” of their disability. Which brings me full circle to the Vice article that inspired my blog post today.

I think a sex party for the disabled is a fantastic idea & I applaud the organizers in Toronto who put this together. I wonder how many others are like me, interested or curious about sex with people who are ‘other-abled’ but are shy or unsure of how to meet someone. You don’t want to rock up to some guy on the street & say: “I see you’re in a wheel chair so I’m thinking you’re an ace pussy licker, wanna mess around?” It seems de-humanizing or objectifying to have the disability be the launch point. So a sex party would be an amazing exploration opportunity for the disabled & those who are interested…well, there are those who actually have specific fetishes for disabilities but I’m not an expert on that so I’ll bow out before I say something uninformed.

I feel like this blog post has gone on too long. I am sensitive to everyone’s short attention span these days. So I’ll just trail off & recommend you read that article.

Cheers,

Mistress T

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The Art of the “Tribute”.

I am not an expert on Financial Domination. Not even close. This post isn’t about FinDom either…to be clear…it’s just my thoughts on “tributes” and some of my recent experiences.

Lots of gifts from my Amazon Wish List!

Lots of gifts from my Amazon Wish List!

A rose by any other name would smell as sweet…a tribute is basically a gift. It’s called a tribute in the FemDom world based on your worship of “The Goddess”…but it’s basically a gift…and it often feels just as good to give a gift as it does to receive it.

A gift is not normally exchanged for something. You don’t give a birthday gift to someone you love expecting something in return. You may well get something in return but it isn’t like paying for a thing or a service. It isn’t a barter.

I have a fan who takes care of my tea needs. How it all came about now doesn’t matter but on an ongoing basis he checks in to see how my tea supply is & when I’m running low he mails me my favorite tea. I drink green tea pretty much constantly when I’m at home & I often think of him when I’m enjoying that tea.

I love tea!

I love tea!

By doing something sweet, simple & thoughtful he remains top of mind. Because of that he was contacted directly recently when I was passing through his part of the world & we met up for a session & dinner. There are very few fans who would have that opportunity.

I have another fan who is always looking for thoughtful ways to tribute me. He has sent me books & movies that I have shown interest in. He has provided unique insight into topics I’ve been curious about. He always sends thoughtful, generous gifts for my birthday. He is always thinking of me & I know it. He is one of the only ones who gets random emails from me just chatting about life because he stays in my mind.

My Amazon Wish List (http://www.amazon.com/registry/wishlist/LYLSUGVVJA6W/ref=cm_sw_r_tw_ws_Ui5Zvb045VBN0) has served as an excellent vehicle for all kinds of fans to show their adoration for me. At first I added sexy clothing, things I thought my fans wanted to see me in. Fishnet body stockings, slutty boots, etc. I was reluctant to add ‘practical’ items like frying pans, laundry soap, comfortable foot wear, winter coats, bird seed, tooth paste, granola bars, etc. But as I started to add those things & guys bought them for me I realized how very appropriate this was. How that is in-line with what I’ve been preaching for years: there is fantasy & there is reality.

In fantasy I spend all day in my castle wearing thigh-high leather stiletto boots, wielding a whip & being pampered & served by all manner of slaves, one in my bathroom for toilet duties, sex slaves chained up in the bedroom, kitchen slaves & servants cooking & cleaning, a slave as a door mat & boot cleaner, all my furniture just being human chairs, etc.

This is not my living room.

This is not my living room.

In reality I walk a lot & need comfortable shoes. I don’t have or want domestic slaves. I live in a regular apartment, do my own laundry, etc. I would rather have some useful kitchen gear or yummy granola bars than another fishnet body stocking (I have about 30 of them by now!).

This is the truth & although I want my fans to immerse themselves in the fantasies I carefully create while they’re jerking off…afterward I want them to remember I am a real person, a regular human, not a 2 dimensional porn puppet. Thinking that I am a whip-wielding sex pot Dominatrix 24/7 is actually objectifying & unhealthy.

Cinderella's castle at Disney in Orlando...not MY castle!

Cinderella’s castle at Disney in Orlando…not MY castle!

When I receive a tribute of any kind I feel ‘seen’, acknowledged & appreciated. Whether it’s appreciation for the way I make a fan feel with my vids or it’s a gift to support me in my regular life…it just feels GREAT. Based on some fans sending on-going tributes I assume they’re getting similar pleasure…or in some cases I’m sure it’s a “Financial Domination” type rush.

Some guys even give to charity as a way of tributing me…& that’s a beautiful thing to do. Here’s info on my favorite charity, Kiva, you can make micro-loans (with or without getting the free time on my site): http://www.mistresst.net/blog/uncategorized/loan-to-a-worthwile-cause-get-free-porn/

So, thanks to all the fans who tribute…for the love of the tribute. The fans who appreciate me & like to do things to make me smile. Of course, joining my members site and/or buying my vids from my clips store is the BEST way to support me. That is my core business, my art, my passion! Amazon gift cards, cash tributes on my clips store or sending gifts are all lovely & very much appreciated too. xo

Big love,

Mistress T

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Amazon Wish List: http://www.amazon.com/registry/wishlist/LYLSUGVVJA6W/ref=cm_sw_r_tw_ws_Ui5Zvb045VBN0

 

VLOG! Alexandra Snow, Sidonia von Bork & I.

While filming for the well-loved FemDom site “The English Mansion” I filmed a casual chat with Alexandra Snow & Sidonia von Bork.

Click here to view the FREE vid: http://www.mistresst.net/free_video

Free vid with Alexandra Snow, Mistress T & Sidonia Von Bork at: http://www.mistresst.net/free_video

Free vid with Alexandra Snow, Mistress T & Sidonia Von Bork at: http://www.mistresst.net/free_video

It was wonderful to spend so much time with Sidonia in England (http://www.TheEnglishMansion.com/) who remains, as always, an inspiration. One of the most skilled, intelligent & creative Dominatrix’s I’ve had the pleasure of working with.

This week Alexandra Snow is a guest of honor at FetishCon in Florida. I am not attending this one but have attended several conventions which brought me together with peers from across the globe. It may have even been a FetishCon a few years ago where I first met & became friends with Alexandra (who resides in Ohio).

Having the opportunity to develop meaningful friendships with these strong, successful women in the same industry means a great deal to me. I’ve said it before, I can sometimes feel isolated running my business on my own with few others who understand what I do.

Speaking of friends in the same industry…I just spent a couple days in Portland with Ceara Lynch (http://www.cearalynch.com/) who showed me the HBO “Sex On” episode that featured her. I thought it was very well done, accurate & entertaining. I feel so much joy seeing my peers doing well, kicking ass in their careers and also achieving work-life balance. Ceara has just returned from 2 months traveling around Australia & New Zealand. Alexandra enjoyed exploring England recently & has been doing lots of fun & interesting things in her personal life. I was with them both in Mexico less than 6 months ago.

Also…The vicious Lexi Sindel of http://www.FemDomEmpire.com came to visit me in Vancouver recently. It was a personal visit (no filming) but I hope to get down to Vegas to film with her (again) in the next few months.

Back to Alexandra Snow…you can see us together (a rare treat!) in “Cleavage Weakness” for all you boob lovers. It’s a sexy duo jerk off instruction with lots of cleavage eye candy. Get it here now: http://clips4sale.com/23869

Alexandra Snow and Mistress T

Domina Snow & I in “Cleavage Weakness” on: http://clips4sale.com/23869

xo

Mistress T

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Do I remind you of anyone?

Mistress T in heels and mini skirt.

Girl next door?

Over the years I’ve had a lot of guys tell me that I remind them of someone from their real lives. I’m not sure how common this is for sex workers/Pro Dommes/escorts, etc.?

Often it’s an ex girlfriend or a love interest from their past. There is an element of nostalgia in these encounters. They sometimes fantasize that they are reuniting with a grown up version of a teenage love from 20 years ago or so. In one situation I was able to help a guy work through some issues he had had over a relationship that didn’t end well. By playing the role of this woman I could give a different perspective of events, how she may have felt, etc.

I’ve had at least a couple of guys say that I look similar to their current wives. One fella liked to be cuckolded by me & imagine that I was his wife. He wanted so badly to see his wife fuck other men but she wasn’t into it. He lived out those fantasies with me.

Imagine I'm your wife...getting fucked by another man...

Imagine I’m your wife…getting fucked by another man…

I’ve had guys say that I remind them of their aunt, mom or mothers friend. Someone they had a crush on when they were younger. Sometimes a school teacher or someone in an authoritative position. We role play fantasies that would have been too taboo to play out otherwise.

Mistress T in a business suit.

Did you do your homework???

Men are very visual & I understand they often like a certain ‘look’. I’ve kept basically the same hair style & haven’t gotten tattoos & piercings like a lot of my friends. Partly because of my job, for those who fantasize I’m a 1940′s pin-up model or Hollywood actress. Or to make it easier for those who are pretending I’m someone else. I don’t mind though. I like my look.

I find it fascinating that men can imagine that I am someone else, someone who meant or means something special to them. That I can help them fulfill fantasies or work through unresolved issues. This is one of the more interesting parts of my work.

Do I remind you of someone? Or are you a woman in a similar line of work who gets told by a lot of men that you remind them of someone? Feel free to share in the comments!

Best,
Mistress T

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Thank you England! (Summer 2015)

I returned from England a few weeks ago. I’ve been enjoying the sunny weather in Vancouver so have been slower than usual with a trip recap blog.

It was a great trip, as always. It was wonderful to see so many friends & familiar faces. I filmed some awesome content, went to the Glastonbury festival, spent some extra time in central London this time…indulged in scones with jam & clotted cream (yum!).

I even got to spend some time with Alexandra Snow but I’ll do a separate blog post on that in the next week.

Here’s a fun little behind-the-scenes vid I made with Sidonia von Bork & Nikki Whiplash.

Sidonia von Bork, Mistress T & Nikki Whiplash. Click the link below to go to the FREE vid!

Sidonia von Bork, Mistress T & Nikki Whiplash. Click the link below to go to the FREE vid!

Click to see the free vid: http://www.mistresst.net/freemovie/vlog-summer-2015-sidonia-von-bork-nikki-whiplash

Here’s a vid we filmed that day: “Prisoners Punishing Ballbusting”:

Click to go the vid: http://clips4sale.com/23869/13973167

"Prisoners Punishing Ballbusting" With Nikki Whiplash & myself, Mistress T. http://clips4sale.com/23869/13973167

“Prisoners Punishing Ballbusting” With Nikki Whiplash & myself, Mistress T.
http://clips4sale.com/23869/13973167

I’m not sure when my next trip to England will be (so please don’t ask, just keep an eye on my blog for travel announcements). I am considering different travel plans this fall & winter, travel that may or may not involve work. I’m considering Africa, Thailand, Costa Rica or warm parts of the US. I’m weighing my options & will announce travel plans if there will be opportunities for me to meet fans. If you live in a place that’s warm November-April and you want me to visit you (& you have a generous budget!), email me to discuss: MsT@MistressT.net
Best,
Mistress T

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Film Slave Application (Updated)

I have written posts like this before but considering the recent flood of applications I’ve decided to write a new one, with basically the same info. My previous post on this topic: http://www.mistresst.net/blog/fetish-focus/film-slave-application/

#1. READ this whole post carefully BEFORE you email me asking to meet me or to be in my films. If you ask to be in my films without providing all the required info I will redirect you back here. Then you’ll be ignored if you still haven’t applied properly.

#2. LOCATION is the most important factor! If you are not in Vancouver & you are not willing/able to come to Vancouver (within the next couple of months) chances are we will NOT be able to film together. I rarely film elsewhere these days. Sometimes in England but I have enough reliable film slaves there already. So say “I am available to film in Vancouver on the following dates…”

NOTE: Do not ask me if I happen to be coming to your city to film: I’m not. I am NOT filming anywhere else in the foreseeable future. If you can’t come to me you’ll need a very generous budget to bring me to you. Like at least a few thousand bucks.

#3. If you are in Vancouver or willing to come here email me pics (naked torso with erect penis) AND a list of what you’re willing to do on film.  Again: I need a clear pic of your body & dick, I shoot video, it’s a visual medium…and I need to know what you’re into doing on film.

NOTE: I am most interested in:

-big dicks that shoot big loads without too much difficulty for hand job vids

-guys for forced bi cock sucking vids, suckers & suckees

-ballbusting guys

-cross-dressing/sissy/trannie types

-guys who can take very large strap-on’s

-small-dicked cuckolds who will suck cock & eat cum (I’m not as much a fan of gimp-hooded cucks in domestic scenes but will consider it if you are a really good cuckold in other ways, easy to work with, etc. I prefer cuckolds to show their face. Age & body type doesn’t matter so much for cuckolds.)

I am NOT interested in dealing with guys with the wrong attitudes. Your role as a film slave is to assist me in creating quality content. This is not a free session. This is not about me servicing your dick. You will have fun, no doubt, but it’s about me & my needs first. Creepy or annoying behavior will not be tolerated. Sending dozens of emails back & forth to organize a shoot will not be tolerated. Communicate clearly but briefly. Show me that you respect my time. I will work with those who are easiest & the most pleasurable to deal with. I am running a business after all, this isn’t Tinder or OK Cupid.

#4. A model release will need to be signed & a photo of you holding your photo ID next to your face will be taken (for age verification, legally you must be over 18 but I rarely work with anyone under 21.) This information is kept secure & would only be shown to the proper authorities if legally mandated. So in other words, most likely never.

#5. Showing your face?: In 95% of my scenes I don’t care if your face is shown. You’ll see most of my vids the guy is unidentifiable. If you’re willing to show your face it gives me more flexibility but it’s certainly not a deal breaker for me.

#6. I don’t pay film slaves. I have plenty of volunteers. I will require you to show you are serious in one of the following ways:

- be a member or become a member of my site (send me your username) to show that you support my work & that you’ve taken some time to research the kinds of vids you want to appear in.

Other ways to pay $50 tribute:

-E-transfer to my email address works from one major Canadian Bank to another. (If you’re that hard up for money I’ll give you your $50 back when you show up for filming.)

-Tribute button on my clips store: http://www.clips4sale.com/23869 (Clip cash card should work even if you don’t have a credit card)
-$50 worth of vids from my clips store: http://www.clips4sale.com/23869
-$50 gift card from Amazon.com (sent to email address below)
-$50 worth of gifts from my Amazon wish list: http://www.amazon.com/registry/wishlist

If discretion is important and/or you only have PayPal this will work (all your wife will see is that you gave money to charity, it still tells me you are serious enough):
-$50 micro-loan through Kiva: http://www.mistresst.net/blog/uncategorized/loan-to-a-worthwile-cause-get-free-porn/

Or a gift card for my favorite spa (paypal):

http://www.mirajhammam.com/gift-certificates/

Email PICS, what you can be used for on film & dates you’re available in Vancouver, plus proof you are serious to: MsT@MistressT.net

Best,
Mistress T

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PPV: http://www.clips4sale.com/23869
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Even more FREE porn for doing a good thing!

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Yeah, I know it’s upside down. But fuck it. The pic has nothing to do with this post anyway.

In November 2014 I launched my “feel-good” campaign of giving free access to my members site to those who helped a great cause. In the last 7 months dozens of fans have participated & it seriously warms the cockles of my heart.

I was thinking about it yesterday, the beauty of it. That there are hard-working people in poor countries able to start businesses to support their families & communities that wouldn’t have had the opportunity to do so without the generosity of my masturbating fans. That by my mico-loaning fans blowing their goo to my vids they are also helping the world. Like actually helping in a very clear way.

That's how good that makes me feel..."double fucking rainbow at Burning Man" good. That's SUPER good.

That’s how good that makes me feel…”double fucking rainbow at Burning Man” good. That’s SUPER good.

So I decided to double-down. For the next couple of months what ever amount you loan I will give you DOUBLE the equivalent free time on my site. For example, if you loan $50 I’ll give you 2 months of premium access rather than 1 month. If you loan $100 I’ll give you 4 months. Awesome, right? And remember: this is a LOAN. So if you don’t feel like you can afford to pay for porn just LOAN the money & you’ll get it back at some point. Free porn AND you get to feel good about doing something to help someone. Holy fuck, right?

Now that last part is important for those of you who support pirated content which you know damn well is bad, bad for me & all producers of content. I would rather fucking give you my content for free directly from my awesome site than have you get it off those crappy pirate sites. So cut that shit out, do something good: get rewarded. Everyone wins…except those dirt bag pirates:-)

Find all the details on my original post about the Kiva Micro-loan for free porn: http://www.mistresst.net/blog/uncategorized/loan-to-a-worthwile-cause-get-free-porn/

Best,
Mistress T

Members site: http://www.MistressT.net
PPV: http://www.clips4sale.com/23869
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Does Your Family Know What You Do???

Me in flannel PJ's

Me in flannel PJ’s

For today’s un-sexy but intimate blog post I answer a recent question from a fan (& the frequent question of “Does your family know what you do?”):

“Since you have spoken a bit about your personal life, I just wondered how a mistress is perceived in her immediate family ? How do parents, cousins, siblings, neighbors look at you? Is there awe/fear/bemusement/curiosity/disgust/quiet acceptance?
At family functions are you a celebrity or is there finger pointing. Sorry if i am intrusive but i have always wondered how normal is life for you outside the lifestyle. Sometimes i wonder how my mom or close family would react if i told her/the that i had paid a woman to be able to drink her pee. Wonder how your mom reacted the first time you told her you humiliated a strange man into similar deeds. Just curious since you are a larger than life FemDom celebrity.”

From my person interaction with women in the adult industry I would say that everyone has their own story. So I won’t speak in generalities I will simply answer for me.

My family has some idea of what I do. Most of them don’t understand exactly what I do, they haven’t seen my website & I don’t spell out specific graphic details, but they know it has something to do with sex/porn/being a Dominatrix. Most of them aren’t interested in knowing more. They don’t ask a lot of questions, in some cases because it would just be awkward for them, in other cases because they have too much respect for me to do anything that might make me uncomfortable.

“Respect”? Does that surprise some of you? It’s all about perspective. My family doesn’t see a harlot when they look at me, they see the grown up version of a good girl with a bit of a wild side. They see a woman in her late 30′s who looks great, who has never had a substance abuse problem, never had a gambling problem, never been in an abusive relationship, hasn’t had an unwanted pregnancy, hasn’t been in trouble with the law, has never asked them for money, etc. They see an adult woman who has traveled the world, who is financially secure, who is happy, healthy & living her life on her terms.

In their words: “How can we find fault in how you decide to lead your life?” They respect me & my personal choices.

My family doesn’t see ‘my job’ when they look at me. They ask questions about my travels, about my life in Vancouver…they ask about my love life, they ask if I want kids, etc. They don’t treat me like a celebrity because frankly, the idea of me being a celebrity wouldn’t have occurred to them. They probably don’t even know there are ‘celebrities’ in the kind of work I do.

In other circles though I am sometimes uncomfortably treated as a celebrity. At some fetish functions or meeting people in the kink community. I quickly try to get people to see me as a regular person (with an unusual job). I try to put people at ease if they seem intimidated or in awe of me. I’m really uncomfortable with that in regular social situations. It can happen if someone else has built me up, told them “Mistress T” will be here, “she’s a famous fetish porn star” or if it’s a guy who has run across my vids on the internet & can’t believe he’s meeting me in the flesh. Argh.

In normal social situations I’m goofy, funny, an active listener, curious about other people, empathetic…the last thing I want is to be put on a pedestal or pseudo stage and asked a thousand questions about my work. I prefer to listen than talk about myself.

As for this part of the question: “Sometimes i wonder how my mom or close family would react if i told her/the that i had paid a woman to be able to drink her pee.”

Your family probably doesn’t want to know if you’ve paid a woman to do anything sexual to you. They probably don’t want you to know what they do sexually in private either. Neither of you care to know the graphic details of each others sex lives.

Privacy is becoming a luxury from the past. The internet is changing this & as more people are accidentally exposed people are realizing that there are more people into ‘weird’ things than ‘normal’. Society is becoming less judgmental & more accepting. But most people, especially family members, are learning information they would rather just not know.

Feel free to ask other questions in the comments area & I’ll address them.

Cheers,

Mistress T

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The Joy of NOT Fucking Me.

Mistress T in Honeymoon Cuckolding.

Is that a close enough look cuck?

Does the title sound a bit strange to you? If so you might be one of the many men (or women?) who would really like to fuck me. Maybe you even fantasize about actually penetrating me or cumming inside of me?

Well, if you weren’t a few minutes ago you probably are now.

There is a whole other world though…men who get off on being denied sexually, being teased or ‘cuckolded’. Sometimes humiliation is part of it, being told they’re not worthy. Others just seem to have a frustration fetish. Some don’t even want to cum, they want total orgasm denial. Chastity can be a part of that.

Why? Why is anyone into anything they’re into?

Chastity!

You won’t be fucking me or cumming locked up in your cage!

I’m very amused by these scenario’s. I get session requests (in person & online) & custom vid requests where guys just want me to tease them with what they can’t have. Describe the sex acts they’ll never have with me, the intimate pleasures they’ll never experience. One of my favorite things to do is to get quite romantic, sensually intimate, without actually doing much of anything. Grazing my nails & fingertips along their skin & through their hair, breathing softly on their neck, moaning quietly in their ear, pressing myself against them so gently they almost don’t register the pressure…

Sweet seduction followed by…

Nothing really. Maybe a little giggle at their squirming & discomfort. A bright smile at their frustration.

Nude Mistress T & a slave.

So close yet so far…

It makes me feel powerful, I admit. Having a man want me so badly. To have his body & cock screaming to do what is supposed to be ‘natural’. To go against nature & to leave him humping the air pathetically.

That might be why I enjoy cuckolding so much. I get to feed my desire to deny a man sex with me while at the same time getting my sexual needs met by another. My cake & eat it too.

I love to say “no”. And I love to say “yes”.

Best,
Mistress T

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